Monday, August 23, 2010

Dear Christains, i need some advice and some personal help?

I am now fighting the spirit of lust and im only 16 years old and i wish to stop myself a slave to my body. I need some bible verses that will help me with my battle strategy fighting the enemy with the help of jesus christ.Dear Christains, i need some advice and some personal help?
Remember Joseph and Potiphar's wife. Flee! Genesis 39





James 4:7


Therefore submit to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you.





1 Corinthians 6:18


Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.





1 Timothy 6:11


But you, O man of God, flee these things and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, gentleness.





2 Timothy 2:22


Flee also youthful lusts; but pursue righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.Dear Christains, i need some advice and some personal help?
Direct my footsteps according to your word; let no sin rule over me. -Psalm 199:133





For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace. -Romans 6:14
1 peter 5:10 But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you. 11 To him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen.





1 Corinthians 6:18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.
I have a feeling that





a. your not really sixteen but forty


b. you have sex with just about everybody
and now for something completely different... I advise you to take part in all the sports your school offers and if that is not possible then take some outside school. Aikido is a wonderful physical and spiritual excercise. If all else fails take some cold showers.
Your 16, why the hell would you want to fight it? If it feels good, do it, but be safe and courteous.
Sounds to me like you have all the help U need there dude. God bless
It seems like you are in earnest. And it takes complete honesty to reslove this and other difficult compulsions in our lives.





The old standard, 23rd Psalm connects you with your strength.





Much of sexual need comes from needing to be accepted. If you put your attention on loving others insread of being loved, it helps. Yet you still need a balance of getting your own needs met. May you be blessed
';For we do not have a savior who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are - yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.'; Hebrews 4:15, 16








God loves you and so do I.
The last thing you need is bible ANYTHING. What you are feeling is normal.
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  • Ok well i a coming to ask a personal question, more like advice...what do you do to really turn your man on?

    I am looking for more ways to steam up me and my husbands bed room..I am 23 and he is 30..both in excellent shape.we have doen ALOT..so any advise,...Ok well i a coming to ask a personal question, more like advice...what do you do to really turn your man on?
    what about him turning you on wouldn't that be better and save you a heap of brain power.Ok well i a coming to ask a personal question, more like advice...what do you do to really turn your man on?
    Talk dirty...Introduce toys...Call him at work and let him hear you masturbating (that one always get to me).....take nude photos and email them to him...use your imagination, We men are not really complicated.
    Wear a mini skirt, no panties...call him and let him know about it with a sexy voice. Then, ask him to meet you for drinks after work. Tease him... That will pump his willy for that night... It always works.
    ORAL!! ORAL!! ORAL!!! If you dont have much experience in this field, teach yourself with HIS member!! Or just try new things with your tongue and maybe some ice?
    get pineapple slices %26amp; break a link or 2 out of it so it will


    fit snugged around ya man's *%26amp;^%........





    then slowly eat the pineapple from around his !%@#.......


    %26amp; as the nice cold pineaple juice flows u can start


    2 lick where ever the juice takes u
    first you need to start by giving him oral in the shower, then after a while bend over and let him do whatever he wants to you. When he's ready to unload recieve him in your mouth. I guarantee this will turn any man on and will leave him very satisfied.
    on a night on the town, take turns whispering what you're going to do to each other at the end of the night. you'll be home 2 hrs. earlier than intended.
    role play

    Is it more important to give advice or explore options with people who ask questions for personal problems?

    I personally try to do both.


    I don't give out options without giving advice to get people in the mind set of what I feel would be the correct course of action for their particular problem.

    I need personal trainer/fitness guru advice on my workout!?

    I have lost 30lbs and want to maintain it. I am going to hawaii in a few weeks and want to be in top shape. 3 days a week i run 30min in the mornings on an empty stomach and then later in the day i lift weights. 3 other days of the week i do a spin class in the afternoon (either right before lunch or late afternoon) and then will do some yoga or pilates during the week. i eat tons of fruits vegetables and do not eat carbs after 3pm unless it is natural in fruits or veggies. Is this an ok plan or is there ANYTHING i can do to step up my game?I need personal trainer/fitness guru advice on my workout!?
    what you are doing sounds great I would add water at leat 8 glasses to a gallon to your daily activities and maybe a few weights to help you tone up and have a ';cut'; look eating in the morning would be good if you are a weight lifter I wnet thru boot camp and for three months straight we would exercise and go on a run in the morning then eat so I would not stress the eating first I lost 10 lbs a monthI need personal trainer/fitness guru advice on my workout!?
    You should definately eat before you run. Eating in the morning speeds up your metabolism and it will give you more energy for your morning run. Just eat a little like maybe some oatmeal or you know, ANYTHING! lol A banana or some cereal. Nothing too fattening but it's not good to go on an empty stomach. Also with your meals it's great to eat more small meals throughout the day than like one BIG meal. When you eat alot at a time it can stretch your stomach out but eating smaller portions throughout the day is a great idea. Hope I helped some, you may have already known the things I told you anyways but good luck!
    You're stressing your body by not eating prior to running. Fruits are loaded with sugar and carbs. It sounds like you're very hard on your body and this probably raises cortisol levels, and then you add more stress by adding sugary fruit.

    Pregnancy symptoms, but negative blood test? PLease help with any personal experiences or advice...?

    Here is the full story...Been off of b.c. for approximately 4 months which is the LAST time I had a period. My boyfriend and I have been using the pull out method which I understand is not smart considering we aren't necessarily planning a pregnancy...





    That being said however, I have been feeling nausea, headache's, back ache's, loss of appetite, bloating, fatigue, and then insomnia other times, my boobs are not tender, but swollen, and I just feel like something is off...I have also been getting these overwhelming sensations through my body that I can really explain.





    In addition, on the fourth and the fifth of this month I had 2 days of very very very light spotting of light pink and then darker brown discharge. I have read that this a lot of times can be considered Implantation Bleeding...





    However...I took a blood test yesterday the tenth, approximately 5 days after the light spotting and it came back negative...





    Any advice...?? What could be wrong with me if i'm not pregnant when I FEEL PREGO?Pregnancy symptoms, but negative blood test? PLease help with any personal experiences or advice...?
    Probably not or the test would have show HCG levels which is human something growth, you could get another test just to make sure but blood tests are usually pretty accuratePregnancy symptoms, but negative blood test? PLease help with any personal experiences or advice...?
    HCG is the pregnancy hormone [Human chorionic gonadotropin] it is detected only when you are pregnant, or are taking hormones. A blood test will pick up any HCG in your system, anything about 5 mL is a positive for pregnancy. If you were pregnant it would show up. I suggest seeing a doctor about this, plus he can figure out what's going on with the other symptoms.

    Am I bisexual or just a bit confused?? personal stories or advice would be great.?

    im a really sexual person in general, but always with guys. I've never had any experience with other chicks. I've always supported gay rights and stuff, but I could never understand bisexual people. then I watched that show with tila tequila and I was like 'wowww she's hot' and that's when I started to become curious. now when I look at other chicks I always think about them in the same way I think about guys





    now I dont know if I'm bisexual or if its just because I am a sexual person, or even if everyone has a bit of bisexuality in them, but they aren't in touch with it or choose to ignore it.





    any thoughts or experiences would be nice =]Am I bisexual or just a bit confused?? personal stories or advice would be great.?
    I never really thought of myself as bisexual before, but had been all for gay rights. I always had crushes on guys, but that was really it. Then one day I saw this picture of two girls kissing and went, ';Wow. That's hot.'; It took me a minute before I went, ';WOAH! Did I just say that?'; After that, I began to think about if I had ever had crushes on girls. And I did. I always thought I just REALLY wanted to be friends with certain girls. But when I compared it to the feelings I had when I had crushes of guys, it matched up perfectly.


    So, I don't know. Think a little bit about how you felt in the past, and how you feel now. Only you know the answer, but I'd say you really could be! :)Am I bisexual or just a bit confused?? personal stories or advice would be great.?
    ok just think for a min that ur the last person on earth and you was about to die and there was a man and a woman that u wanted to have sex wit who would u pick if u pick the girl than would u think maybe i should have pick the man or u pick the man and thought u should have pick the man so stop and think what do u want if any more answer holla at me.
    Every girl has bisexual tendencies to some degree weather they chose to accept that is something else. Not many question their sexuality so go through life thinking they're straight. I read somewhere that the higher your sex drive the more you attraction to both sexes increases (if you are female) I have that also!
    ummm i think that u go both ways u like girls for there pussy and boys for there ***** ummm and no i dont have anystories for this sorry but i think n the end u will be with a man only becuase u seem to like them more and support the rights of gay people and yeah we all have a little bisexual ness n us but most of us just choose to let it pass us bye like me!

    Personal assistant like job, any advice?

    I am posting an ad on Craigslist for a job, like a person who runs errands for someone else, picks up kids, gets dry cleaning, makes supper, does laundry, stuff like that. My question is how much should I charge for my service? Obviously for things like grocery shopping they would pay me back how much I spent and then some gas money,and then extra as my pay, but what exactly should I charge them? What percent and then what about things like loads of laundry, picking up the kids, or things like that?Personal assistant like job, any advice?
    i think if you are ';on call'; like celebrity personal assistants then you should get paid a set rate a week. they should provide money up front for items that they want purchased and it shouldn't come out of your own pocket. Depending on where you live, you can expect to make 500 to 1000 a week for this type of work.

    Personal assistant like job, any advice?

    I am posting an ad on Craigslist for a job, like a person who runs errands for someone else, picks up kids, gets dry cleaning, makes supper, does laundry, stuff like that. My question is how much should I charge for my service? Obviously for things like grocery shopping they would pay me back how much I spent and then some gas money,and then extra as my pay, but what exactly should I charge them? What percent and then what about things like loads of laundry, picking up the kids, or things like that?Personal assistant like job, any advice?
    i think if you are ';on call'; like celebrity personal assistants then you should get paid a set rate a week. they should provide money up front for items that they want purchased and it shouldn't come out of your own pocket. Depending on where you live, you can expect to make 500 to 1000 a week for this type of work.

    Going from glasses to contact lenses...personal experience would be great, or advice!?

    I am getting contacts soon, (proper prescription version) after wearing glasses for almost, say 12 years. It is for a self confidence boost and becuase my school formal is coming up in 4 weeks. Do you have any advice? Especially girls; like makeup tips for brining out small eye?and hiding a glasses tan :) Like what it feels like etc. Do you regret it?





    I am keeping my old glasses for home time, I will keep the contacts for school, work and outings.





    ThanksGoing from glasses to contact lenses...personal experience would be great, or advice!?
    Definitely contacts ALL THE WAY!!! I'll never go back to glasses. They get sweaty, and slide down, and you see out the sides of them. Contacts are wonderful! One thing to make sure of though is to get the right brand. I had the wrong ones for the longest time and I could always feel them in my eyes and they dried up soo easily. Now I have O2Optix breathable lenses, and they make a WORLD of difference. Ask your eye doctor about them. They don't dry out easily at all, and they're really comfortable. Also, you need a good solution to soak them in. I've used alot of different ones, and I'd definitely recommend Opti-free Replenish solution. It keeps your contacts from drying out..it helps alot more than most of the solutions.





    One makeup tip I've heard for bring out small eyes..is to put a little eyeliner on the outer corners of the eyes..if you know what I mean. Like the outer quarter of each eyelid. It kind of stretches the eye out. And what I do is line the inner eyelids, like on top, it'd be under your eyelashes. Lift up your eyelashes and line that little line of skin there, and then on top, smudge the liner into the eyelash line to make it look natural. Make sure there's no space between the liner and your eyelash line. That'll make your eye look bigger.





    I hope this helps at least a little. Take care and good luck with the contacts--I'm sure you'll love them!Going from glasses to contact lenses...personal experience would be great, or advice!?
    i had glasses from 2nd grade untill two or three days before i went into 5th grade. after being used to the glasses i was freaked when i had to try the contacts..after i did though i loved them. it only took a couple days for me to get used to them they dont feel uncomfortable at all now. ive worn them for 3 years now. when im puttin make up on i just use darker colors to make my eyes look bigger..i would never go back to just having glasses though.
    yeah switching from glasses to contacts can be and exciting thing. well at least for me it was.





    at 1st it felt a little akward and weird having a thing in your eye at all time. it takes a bit to get used to but im sure you will get used to it in no time though putting a lense in your eye the 1st few times may be dificult cuz my eye would blink and flintch alot and wouldnt let me put it in. but now im glad i can do it in less the 10 sec. =]





    i still like to wear my glasses when im at home or having a lazy day at school or something. but sometimes your eyes do get irretatated for having them in there.





    im not a girl but im sure that with the proper make up you can hide your tan line from your glasses and make your eyes come out more.





    hope i helped by giving your my personal expierience. if you wanna check out who i am go to myspace.com/nk101





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    I had glasses for 4 years and never got the hang of contacts until last year. They are the best thing ever!! I NEVER wear my glasses and dont regret them one bit. As makeup goes, just put a bit more mascara on your eyes and accent with some eyeshadow and slight eyeliner. It makes a world of differnce.

    Any advice on dating? Share your personal experience....?

    Any advice on dating? Share your personal experience....?


    What qualities should i look for in a good relationship? please share your personal experiences with dating and what have you learned from previous relationships. Is communication a big factor? Any advice on dating? Share your personal experience....?
    No, communication is not a big factor, it's the whole enchilada. Communication is everything. Without it, your relationship is not likely to go anywhere. People cannot read minds, you have to tell them what you are thinking. Hints do not work.





    Also, you have to have honesty and trust or the communication is meaningless. If you have these 3 things, you will be much more likely to have a good relationship.

    Would you take financial advice from someone that declared personal bankruptcy?

    no !!!!!Would you take financial advice from someone that declared personal bankruptcy?
    Possibly, it depends. They could possess the proper training and knowledge to give useful/accurate financial advice, yet lack the ability to apply it to their personal life. There are many people out there like that, they can help others but can't seem to help themselves. I'm probably one of them. lol. I'd be leery, though, obviously.Would you take financial advice from someone that declared personal bankruptcy?
    Hi,


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    Any personal trainers on here...I need advice?

    I have been an avid gym goer for about 5 years and I am going to school to be a Nutritionist. Where should I begin to look to become a personal trainer in the mean time? What schools are credible or offer the best certification programs?


    Thanks!Any personal trainers on here...I need advice?
    Well, the best place to start asking questions is at the gym where you exercise. The trainers and the gym manager/coordinator should be able to piont you in the right direction. He'll know what's close to your area and what is required.
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  • Based on you own personal experience, what is the best advice you could give to someone?

    Or what is the best advice you've gotten and would pass along?





    Mine would be not to wait too long to have kids...you may not be able to get pregnant right away. (Personal Experience).Based on you own personal experience, what is the best advice you could give to someone?
    Try and try again till you succeedBased on you own personal experience, what is the best advice you could give to someone?
    be patient
    Mine would be get all the education you think you may want in life before you start a family. A masters and a PhD., one being technical....
    Live everyday like it's your last because the only guarentee in life is change.
    Don't let the door hit you on the way out.
    The best advice I would give someone is ';Keep your head held up high.'; When times are tough and bringing you down, it is up to you to keep your head up. You will get through it and your experience will make you a better person. My mom gave me this advice a few years ago because I was going through a difficult time in my life. Things got better and my experience made me who I am today.
    Life is hard, But life will never throw somethin at you that you can't handle. Take every experience as a learning experience.
    DO: Pray


    DON'T: Prey
    Don't seek people's acceptance ,love and approval and don't ask for it.
    Live a little!
    take it as it comes..simple but effective
    u don't have to get married, be friends with benifets, then u can never worry about devorse. if you don't like the person any more you can just up and leave.
    pay with cash. stay away from credit cards!

    A question for FITNESS EXPERTS and PERSONAL TRAINERS only. Advice?

    I need help getting a diet and advice to losing a couple extra pounds. I have a some extra pounds in my stomach area, that I need to lose. How can I lose those extra pounds, and form muscular abs? What foods should I eat, to loose any fatty weight? I've been eating salads lately, and drinking less soda. I'm 19 years old and my hight is around 5'8. I work part-time for a large retail store. I work in-stock, and I do pull heavy pallets of products to different departments in the store when closing. I feel like the job is making me stronger. I am also a full-time college student at a community college. Ironically my time is limited to go to a gym and work-out between work and college classes. Can any fitness experts and personal trainers give me advice?A question for FITNESS EXPERTS and PERSONAL TRAINERS only. Advice?
    its acctually pretty ez but alot of ppl try to make it sooo complicated that ppl just cant be bothered doing it. All u have to do it stop or cut down on foods that arent good for you. Start eating healthy foods and doing regular exercises. try doing if u havent already ab exercises like crunchers,leg lifts etc. Workout all the areas of ur stomach such as upper abs, lower abs and side oblequies. And remember it takes time to see results. Also drink lots of water it helps u recover from a long and hard workout.A question for FITNESS EXPERTS and PERSONAL TRAINERS only. Advice?
    Work out how many calories you need in a day to maintain your weight.





    Log all your food at www.fitday.com.





    Then reduce your calories by 500 each day.





    This should allow you to lose 2-4lbs per week.





    Eating salads are good but you also need protein, fat and carbs!





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    I find myself with a peculiar personal problem. Any advice?

    I can't masturbate alone. It isn't that I can't physically, it just doesn't do it for me. When I am feeling amorous I only want the company of my husband and if he isn't there then I don't masturbate as it just doesn't turn me on. When we are together sexually we sometimes mutually masturbate and alternately use adult toys which get the job done but when I am alone I use the same items or techniques but I just can't get going or finish. I know this sounds like a strange problem but it perplexes me. With the amount of masturbating men do I feel left out that I can't do it. Does anyone else have this problem?I find myself with a peculiar personal problem. Any advice?
    There is no problem there. There are plenty of people that can't do it very well alone or even do it at all alone.





    My boyfriend very rarely does it alone because it just ';doesn't feel the same'; to him. He never is turned on enough and sometimes the same things happens to me. I will get frustrated with myself and never get to orgasm but the moment you add him into the picture it takes less then 3 minutes.. we've timed it lol.





    That's perfectly normal to want your husband there to turn you on. To do it alone is sooo boring.I find myself with a peculiar personal problem. Any advice?
    It could be something from your childhood that has made you like this, and adult telling you it is a dirty thing to do etc. Usually a guilt complex in case you get caught. Discuss this with your husband and he should be able to help you get round this problem. It is more common than you think.
    I'm going to make a lot of women mad with this statement...





    The female orgasm is not a biological necessity... but it is a great bonus! The male orgasm is a biological necessity (babies can't come about without the release of sperm). Also, there have been several studies which have come to the conclusion that regular orgasms are necessary for male reproductive health. There is no study which I have seen (and I actually looked) that finds the same link to the female orgasm and reproductive health.





    In study after study we have found that the female orgasm is about 90% psychological. If a woman isn't comfortable, there's not much that can happen to take her ';over the edge';. Guys, on the other hand, can get off just about anywhere and under nearly any conditions. Honestly, we're pretty much good to go whenever and wherever.





    Are you a freak? Not even a little bit. If you are comfortable with playing with yourself only with your mate, then that's the way your brain works and there's nothing wrong with that. Trust me, he probably thinks its really HOT that you are sharing such a private and intimate thing with him. My wife tells me that she can ';trip her own trigger'; without me there, but that she enjoys it more if I'm along for the ride.

    Are there any certified personal fitness trainers out there? PLEASE give me advice.?

    I am wanting to get my certification but am not sure of which company to go through. I have no prior education in this field but becoming a CPT has always been my dream. I'm 29 and ready, willing and wanting to fullfill this dream. I have narrowed my search down to the following three companies: ISSA, ACE %26amp; NESTA. Can anyone tell me which is better and why? Or do you know of a better place to get the education I need? Who do you get your certification through? Any help would be greatly appreciated!Are there any certified personal fitness trainers out there? PLEASE give me advice.?
    I would go with ISSA I went through with them and it was great It was easy know I am living my dream. Hope you have a great time.Are there any certified personal fitness trainers out there? PLEASE give me advice.?
    NASM - I've been a trainer for years. It has become the industry standard. Most major gym chains won't hire you if you don't have it.

    A few questions...personal experiences and advice welcome!!! easy 10 points?

    Question Details: A few questions here... personal experiences and advice welcome!!!!!





    5 days ago may of had implantation bleeding... light brown and pink only on toilet paper when i wiped for less than 2 days only....





    have gas pains and gas noisies in my tummy...a little nausea, and nipple tenderness...





    took a test yesterday afternoon it was neg..





    QUESTIONS:


    do those sound like pregnancy symtoms??


    How far along would i be if implantation was 5 days ago???


    when can i test???A few questions...personal experiences and advice welcome!!! easy 10 points?
    they make very sensative test to tell. but no those dont neccisarily mean preg. it could be a number of thingss! i would wait a few dys and take another test.

    A few questions...personal experiences and advice welcome!!! easy 10 points?

    Question Details: A few questions here... personal experiences and advice welcome!!!!!





    5 days ago may of had implantation bleeding... light brown and pink only on toilet paper when i wiped for less than 2 days only....





    have gas pains and gas noisies in my tummy...a little nausea, and nipple tenderness...





    took a test yesterday afternoon it was neg..





    QUESTIONS:


    do those sound like pregnancy symtoms??


    How far along would i be if implantation was 5 days ago???


    when can i test???A few questions...personal experiences and advice welcome!!! easy 10 points?
    first day of missed period is when you can test some people tell you to wait but i took my test the first day of my missed period and it came out positiveA few questions...personal experiences and advice welcome!!! easy 10 points?
    You can test five days before your missed period. When i tried to get pregnant. I took my self off the pill on April 3rd, Started implantation bleeding on april 9-16 and got pregnant right after that. However i had 3 negative pregnancy test until father's day, june 15 when i tested postive. If you are very fertile, it will not take long to conceive. Good Luck and hope that i was helpful!!!
    Your symptoms are certainly some of those found in pregnancy. Implantation takes place between the 6th and 12th days after ovulation. This means implantation takes place between the 3rd and 4th week of pregnancy. You can test at home up to 5 days before your expected period, but sometimes the HCG levels aren't high enough until you've actually missed your period. You can go to the doctor and have a blood test done which is more sensative than a home pregnancy test and can give you a positive result sooner. If you had implantation bleeding 5 days ago, you should be able to tell if you're pregnant with a blood test. You may have to wait another week or so to get a positive home pregnancy test.
    they could be, but also could just be bad wind, you dont really have symptoms so soon,





    well they go from yuor last period date so count from the beginning of that! not even 3/4 weeks id guess, so if you were pregnant it be size of a pin head.





    test on your next due date, you ca get tests earlier than this but wait till your next period due date for an accurate result.!
    Implantation bleeding happens 7 to 10 days after you conceive. So, you would be about 12 to 15 days pregnant. The test probably wouldn't show up yet. The symptoms wouldn't show up yet either. Wait until you miss your period. Good luck!
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  • How to improve my personal life? Please advice. ?

    I need serious answers.To begin with,mine was an arranged marriage.I and my hubby had a 6 month gap after engagement and before marriage.From then onwards, we seldom argue for no reason.It may be a small reason like he din鈥檛 call me or he disconnected my call due to official reasons.But I used to make a great fuss out of it which always used to lead to a break in the relationship,but it never happened though we argue and reach to tht conclusion.The fact is love each other a lot.Now it鈥檚 7 months since our marriage is over and each time we argue,we mentally become down at the end of the argument.Actually it鈥檚 me who is the reason for everything.He is a kind where he loves me a lot but doesn鈥檛 know how to show it.But whereas me I want him to show it in everyway possible.In short,I expect him to do many things like I think but nothing works out practically.When he comes back from work,I poke him by asking why u din鈥檛 pick up my call,why you are so late,why you are behaving so strangely towards me these days,etc.Actually hes pressurized at work because he din鈥檛 reach the said target set by his manager.I inspite of knowin all these,I behave very indifferently towards him,at the same time I love him a lot.When I behave indifferently towards him,at tht point I don鈥檛 know wht I鈥檓 doing.After committing the above said,I realize wht I did was wrong.By then,the argument phase is through and I sit and cry very badly.My husband has a debt to be covered and I鈥檓 supporting him in all respects.I want somehow this debt to be covered so tht we can stablilise our life and live more happily before we plan for a kid.He is having tht frustration as well in his mind because of which he is always lost and short tempered.Little knowing tht,I bounce on him for no reason and it ends up in a huge argument.I really love him more than my life and he loves me as well.But don鈥檛 know how to express it.I really need to improve the depth in my relationship.Please helpHow to improve my personal life? Please advice. ?
    Remember, you can't really ';change'; other people! (especially not your significant other) The only person you can ';change'; is yourself, and how you *react* to other people's behavior.





    My advice is to chose to *accept* your husband *unconditionally,* for the person he is. This means accepting him for all his strengths as well as flaws. Stop and think twice about your relationship, before you jump down his throat for all his perceived ';shortcomings.';





    From what you've wrote, your relationship with your husband doesn't sounds like it has any *serious* problems. He's not dishonest, cruel or angry, manipulating, abusive, or neglectful; he's got a steady job and isn't an alcoholic or drug addict, he hasn't cheated.





    I think part of what you have here is a *communication* problem. You have a hard time expressing your feelings to him in a respectful and constructive manner. You feel like your aren't being ';listened to.'; So, instead you resort to nagging and criticism, or else silence and unresponsiveness.How to improve my personal life? Please advice. ?
    Change the environment...maybe go out on a small holiday trip and spend time together away from all other problems in world!!!


    This will increase your mutual understanding....
    GIve him some space.... praise him not bring him down, once he gets his debt paid and his stuff taken care of he will mellow, just let time deal w/ it.
    Try teaching one thing at a time. Use plenty of praise in the effort.
    believe in god he will surely help you. there is late answers in heaven but not darkness.
    Set aside your ego and love unconditionally. If you cant communicate your feelings to him directly, use love notes and place them at strategic points where he will find them. Be patient and he will surely respond. Another alternative is to show him the question you have asked us.


    God Bless n Good Luck!
    your problem is same as mine.... i was feeling that much what you r now feeling about the things goind on. It is only the situation where you try to cope up with the environment you forcibly live.... after marriage everybody including you, take part of your husby's life.... he never take part of yours.... so try to cope with the situation and there is no such arguments happened...... some sort of man didnt like to answer if you put any ? to him... u never get that ans.... u like........ accept things ........ keep quit and try to discuss his life and family.... not yours......... then there is i believe he try to speak....... about his problems........... what he like and dilikes.......if you got this then there is no such prolem you face.........if you contact me then i can discuss on this chapter on yahoo messenger of though mail- dllpsahu@yahoo.co.in

    Help? I need advice for this personal situation?

    I ';shot'; into my hat, how can I clean it out?





    the hat looks like this:





    http://www.youtube.com/my_history#Help? I need advice for this personal situation?
    for the link im getting the videos ive watched?Help? I need advice for this personal situation?
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    REPOST IT

    I have a personal question. Any Advice?

    So I broke up with a boy I dated for a year. We broke up about 4 months ago. We need to break up because I treated him like crap and he should have left me forever ago. I only realized how mean I was to him after the break up. I wanted to stay friends though.


    Well my best friend's boyfriend is best friends with my ex. So I was talking **** about my ex to my best friend and she just mentioned it to her boyfriend. So my ex doesn't want to be friends. This pissed me off really bad at the time so I called her boyfriend and told him all the **** she does that he doesn't want her to. I definatly over-reacted. Long story short were not friends anymore. I never want to be friends with her. But with her I lost pretty much ALL my friends and I do internet school cause I didn't want to go back to school. (This all happened in the summer)


    Well I used to be a very bad person. I would use my friends and manipulate everyone around me. Since then I have worked very hard on myself and have grown alot as a person.


    My new best friend was in a fight with her ex friend too but she apologized. She doesn't want to be friends with her but she set a really good example for me and I want to say sorry to everyone I hurt over the years.


    Mind you all I did was call her boyfriend. She told everyone not to be friends with me and posted bulletins on myspace just generally saying awful things. She was also a ***** about giving me my things back. She put them on a bag mixed with dinner on my front porch and ruined about 200$ worth of cloths.


    I want to know if it's worth it. It will make me feel better and is another growing expierince but should I just let sleeping dogs lie?


    I know I definatly need to say sorry to my ex but if I say sorry to one person I want to say somthing to everyone.


    Please no mean or rude posts.I have a personal question. Any Advice?
    You don't like people much do you?


    I think you want to make amends because you realize people are learning that you aren't a very nice person.


    So, what if you get nothing from your apology? Or apologies? Will you still be sorry or will you be mad again?


    You need to sit and think about this.


    Sometimes being alone......we learn a lot about ourselves.I have a personal question. Any Advice?
    making amends is definitely a big step in forgiving yourself as well as others for hurt that you have endured. whether they choose to accept your apology is their own choice, but you will have a clear conscience. do it. :)
    Life's ups and downs changes us all, sometimes we hurt those we love the most. An apology is something that might let you move on, in the long run if they dont accept it just remember you were the one who learned the lesson. If you dont apologize you may wish you always had.
    say sorry or you will regret being the jerk in about 4 years. even if they don't accept you tried. you really have to try tho, no half-*** bullcrap just so you can say you tried. you never kno, you might get a friend back, even tho you say you don't want to ever see her again.
    You don't like people much do you?


    I think you want to make amends because you realize people are learning that you aren't a very nice person.


    So, what if you get nothing from your apology? Or apologies? Will you still be sorry or will you be mad again?


    You need to sit and think about this.


    Sometimes being alone......we learn a lot about ourselves.





    i agree with this post!

    Need Christian help! Personal problem, need advice?

    I had been working on the yes on 8 campaign in california, and I'm worried that it is starting to affect me negatively. I am, in all seriousness, becoming sexually aroused at bad times and for bad reasons. Everytime during the protests, I would yell at the gays one of our list .. ie. Adam and Steve ect, I would become slighly aroused. When it first passed, I saw a girl fall down and cry, and what should have been a moment of somber victory.. the girl crying turned me on. I cannot explain it, is there a condition that turns people on when they have a priviledge from god others don't have? I am worried, that maybe I have given way to arrogance, and taken pride in my victory, and this is god's punishment.





    Advice? Please, I don't need any straight haters or atheists ridiculing me... I've had enough of those types.Need Christian help! Personal problem, need advice?
    No, absolutely there isn't a condition with the symptoms you describe. A ';condition'; implies there's a cookie cutter answer for you, and that someone could come along with a pill for you to take and make it go away. I think there's a different answer here.





    First of all, it is possible you have given yourself in to arrogance and pride, but God is not in the business of meting out punishments like this. Becoming aroused at an inappropriate time can lead to discouragement, anger, self-doubt, and may even lead you to sin. God would never, ever do something like that.





    I think that you are under attack by the enemy. Mainstream Christianity tells us that there is not an enemy; this is false. A religion that acknowledges God, Jesus, and angels but says that Satan and demons are a problem of the past is living in blissful ignorance.





    The enemy wants to wound you at the very core of your being, to stop you from fulfilling the role that God has set out for you. Jn 10:10 says, ';The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy.'; And he does this in a very sneaky way, the same way he deceived Eve with the apple. He doesn't control you, he doesn't try to force you to do his will. He spins little lies that sound like truths.





    I don't know much about you or your situation but the lies I hear in your story are:





    1. Look at what a terrible person you are, having feelings you shouldn't have. You're not fit to serve God. You're a deviant, perverted.





    2. God is punishing you for how terrible you are.





    This wound has been allowed to heal over and then been ripped open again, by ';straight haters and atheists ridiculing'; you. The result the Enemy is hoping for, is to take you out of the fight, because the truth is that you are a danger to him.





    So, the next step for you is to renounce any agreements you may have made with the Enemy's lies. Then spend some time in quiet prayer. Don't worry about getting rid of these feelings just yet. First, let God speak into your heart truths to displace the lies of Satan.





    Then, later, maybe in a few days, ask God to show you what He would have you do next and what the next steps are. If you turn to other humans to help you, you are leaning on us, and however well intentioned we are we may lead you astray.





    The best advice anyone can give a brother in Christ is this: Listen to Jesus, then do what he tells you.





    Good luck, and let us know how everything turns out.Need Christian help! Personal problem, need advice?
    Since you're still a bigot, you obviously haven't had enough ';straight haters'; as you call them, or atheists, ridiculing you.





    By the way - are straight people who oppose discrimination ';straight haters'; according to you?



    It is inordinate passion, and every person is tempted to sin, when they are attracted of their own lusts, and flattered; then when the lust has imagined or invented the idea, it brings forth sin. We must turn our eyes from seeing of evil, and shut our ears from hearing of it.
    FanTASTIC troll





    Had me going for a bit lol. Homophobes are actually likely to get aroused by gay people. You lost me at ';the girl crying turned me on'; because it's hard to believe anyone would have 2 strange, unrelated fettishes





    Edit it a little and you'll be sweet





    8.5/10
    You might be into that stuff. Its nothing you can help.
    After you confront gays, give yourself some break. Then, duke it out again.
    And now I take a drink.
    I'd like to believe that this was a stupid joke made by an atheist, but it might not be. Man, we've reached a sad time in history.
    Seems to me that your getting aroused at times of adrenaline rush. So maybe its the 'thrill' that turns you on. Some people get turned on by jumping out of planes and stuff. Weird in my opinion, but men are strange creatures. haha I don't think its really anything to be concerned about. Just pray and give it to God, and try to keep your thought process in line. Its hard to control our flesh sometimes, but it IS possible. Everyone goes through these times of trial.


    God bless and help you...just trust and obey and you'll get through it.
    BUHAHAHAHAHA!





    You meant this as a joke right?





    You really don't get aroused thinking of the 8,000 plus marriages that your vote may have disintegrated, right?





    It sounds like you get aroused from power or seeing people who are in tough situations.It sounds a bit psychopathic, to be honest. Rapists for instance get aroused from having power over others or seeing others lose control.





    Still, you can't be serious. Maybe Exodus International could abuse -- cough -- I mean help you with such a ';problem.';

    Should we only give advice from our own personal experiences?

    isnt that the only legitiment (sp?) way to know if its good advice or not?Should we only give advice from our own personal experiences?
    Giving ';Advice'; is the easiest thing to do! Who would take it?


    Well, people wish to believe it if you have personally undergone that experience which you are advising about.





    Finally, even if the advice is good, hardly 1% will accept your advice! Such is human nature.Should we only give advice from our own personal experiences?
    I don't come here for advice, I come here for opinions. ';Advice'; has the implication you should do what's said, ';Opinions'; are something to think about while deciding what you should do. If someone says, ';You should dump that loser, you deserve better than that,'; that's their OPINION, and something for you to think about. I like to have LOTS of opinions to think about, good and bad, and everything in between.
    No. Answers would fold. We each have too little experience to keep this boat afloat. All is Perception.

    TTC any Personal Experience Please advice..?

    Long story short. I was 2 weeks late for my period. I took a HPT and after 30 seconds i checked it and threw it away, i looked at it 4 hours later and positive.(i no there is such a thing as evaporation line but..) I toke a test again the next day and negitive but nothing showed up later(same kind of test). So then right after that i started bleeding, first light pinkish blood, then a normal flow for 2 days (very small clots along with that) but now for the past 2 days im am just bleeding faint brown blood. Is there a chance i could be pregnant... I would be 6 weeks. is that implantation or does that sound like even a miscarriage?


    Did anyone else have this situation and be pregnant with a healthy child? Please let me know.TTC any Personal Experience Please advice..?
    I had the same thing happen to me. I got my period the month after and I wasn't pregnant. Wishful thinking.





    Good luck next time. TTC any Personal Experience Please advice..?
    that is happening to me now i am 5 days late and have period cramps for the last 3 days and started spotting today and then little clots first red then turn to brown and now it is a lite flow but no positive test i am testing first thing in the morning i will let you know and good luck. also i took clomid which is a fertility med i also had sex on my ovulating day so i think it is implantation cramps and bleeding that might be what you have
    I know this isnt what you want to hear, but it kinda sounds like an early miscarriage.. I have had 6 miscarriage ( 2, then had 2 healthy baby girls, and then 4 in a row) now I am preggo and praying I stay that way.. But I would have the bleeding light pink spotting, then normal with a few clots then brownish.. BUT... There is a chance this could happen and you are preggo and have a healthy baby.. I did with my 1st daughter, I bled for about 2 weeks, around 8 weeks along and then it stopped and she was ful term! I wish you luck!!
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  • ATTENTION ALL CURRENT MILITARY PERSONAL, i need advice!?

    I have about 10 months to make a decision on which branch i would like to serve 4 to 6 years in. I'm a female so combat related jobs are out of the question. i'm 5'3 and about 105 pounds but my weight doesnt mean anything. i grew up a farm girl so i can lift and carry more than ppl think i can. i earned a 60 on the ASVAB. So far i'm leaning towards the Air Force Security Forces. Can anyone give me a reason why i shouldn't do security forces? If so, suggust a branch and MOS that you favor or are currently doing? It would be a plus if you are in security forces but if not give me some useful advice.





    Please don't go ranting why so-so branch is better than the other. i'm in critical need to get some hard-core info. Much obigied.ATTENTION ALL CURRENT MILITARY PERSONAL, i need advice!?
    If you score a 60 on the asvab you need to stay in school until you can can get 70. Security force are nothing more than just an over glorified security guard. To get a decent school you need at least 70. The military needs peolpe to do shitty job just as much as they need infantry. So they call it something fancy. So you can spend the next 4 years doing guard duty and went you finish you time you will not be able to get a job. Military training means very little to cilvians companies.


    Go to school for 1 more year. Take algebra and some english class and then you might can get medical equipment repair school or something like that. If you go in as a rock you will leave that way.ATTENTION ALL CURRENT MILITARY PERSONAL, i need advice!?
    Don't worry about what others think/recommend when they don't even know you. Do what you want that will help you in the civilian world. If you want to be a cop then go security forces, if you want to work with money/banking then work in finance, etc. Find something that will give you OJT on the civilian job that you want later. Don't settle for a dead end job that doesn't translate to anything in the civilian sector because you will have wasted 4-6 years and be starting all over again.
    I spent a year in Iraq pulling guard duty with AFSF guys and gals a lot. Their deployments were only 6 months long compared to my 1 year. They appeared to have the most laid back job ever. I hear AF basic training is easy, but I can't say for sure. If your a tough farm gal like my girlfriend is, you'll be fine. I'm a city boy, but country gals make me melt. lol I think you've got your sights set on a good MOS. Good luck!
    If you scored a 60 on the ASVAB all branches are open to you. I am partial to the Navy for personal reasons, but all the branches are excellent. If you're looking at Security Forces, which could be an excellent direction for you, you can do it in any branch. It will also prepare you for a Law Enforcement job in civilian life when you're out.





    Military Police, 31B, is a good MOS and one that requires a lot of good training. It's practical and can be very rewarding too.





    It sounds like you are already leaning towards Security Forces and I wouldn't want to steer you away from where your heart and mind are headed.





    Air Force has excellent Security Forces and a few MOS's to choose from, it also may require some traveling. In the Navy you may travel a lot, same with Marines and Army.





    Follow your heart and mind, but ask the recruiter questions. The only bad question is the one you fail to ask before signing your contract.





    Thank you for wanting to serve and best of luck to you, you'll do just fine no matter what branch you select.
    Do the air force, but dont do security forces. you got a 60 so you can get a better job than that.

    A few questions...personal experiences and advice welcome!!! easy 10 points?

    A few questions here... personal experiences and advice welcome!!!!!





    5 days ago may of had implantation bleeding... light brown and pink only on toilet paper when i wiped for less than 2 days only....





    have gas pains and gas noisies in my tummy...a little nausea, and nipple tenderness...





    took a test yesterday afternoon it was neg..





    QUESTIONS:


    do those sound like pregnancy symtoms??


    How far along would i be if implantation was 5 days ago???


    when can i test???A few questions...personal experiences and advice welcome!!! easy 10 points?
    wait a few more days and take it first thing in the morningA few questions...personal experiences and advice welcome!!! easy 10 points?
    i would say take the test one more time then go get a blood test done!
    Answers:


    1. Yes, very much! I had all of those when I was pregnant.


    2. I can't say for sure without knowing when your last period is... but you ovulated about two weeks after your period, and then within a week you've had your implantation and now it's 5 days passed when you had implantation... so my guess would be about 4-5 weeks along.


    3. You need to test first thing in the morning, because HCG builds up in your urine over night. I suggest waiting one week passed your missed period but you can get a first response early pregnancy test and it'll most likely tell you in the morning. (up to 5 days before your missed period!)





    I hope this helps!
    Yes those are common pregnancy symptoms, however please try not to look into them that much, our bodies can play wierd tricks on us when we are TTC.





    Implantation bleeding happens 6-10 days after your egg was fertilized. Techincally you are not pregnant until after implantation occured.





    You can take a test after your missed period, that would be the most accurate.
    ur going to have a baby
    Give it another week or so.
    sounds like it to me..i had gas, constipation, cramping, and sore breast....test 2 wks after ur missed period!

    Need PERSONAL Dating/ Relationship Advice?

    Hey My name is Sidney. I am planning 2 be an advice columnist on dating and relationship advice in a newspaper when I get out of college so if any1 needs any personal advice then come 2 me. I Have all the answers. I have alot of experience with advice giving but I'd love 2 get more so please email me at advice_grl_askme@yahoo.com


    thxs! dont hesitate 2 ask because I answer every single question i receive


    If ur question is urgent then in the subject box put URGENTNeed PERSONAL Dating/ Relationship Advice?
    .... Get a life.Need PERSONAL Dating/ Relationship Advice?
    dear Sidney... may i know u r from which place...

    Very personal problem...any advice?

    A year ago, I went for my 6 week check up after I had my son, an the O.B. told me that I had a yeast infection, and perscribed this medication to me. It was 2 pills to swallow. I took the first one, an it made me really dizzy, felt sick, just gross. So I didnt take the other. Now, a year later, I have like this discharge, not cottage cheese like, but really milky, that will leak out of me, an actually wet my pants...esp. close to my period time. I think I may have the yeast infection still, but I have no health insurance. Has anyone had anything like this? I'm married, been with the same person for 5 1/2 years, an we are very faithful to each other. Its not an std. What is something that I can buy, that is easy to use....should I try that kit that tells you what kind of infection it is?? Help!!Very personal problem...any advice?
    Small amounts of discharge are normal. Every woman is different but if there is not an odor you don't have much to worry about. If you have been checked for STD's in the past and all tests have come up negative you will be fine. Sounds like your significant other is clean too. I would say just use panty liners. If you are still concerned, you may want to consider a free family planning clinic. I went to one when I didn't have any health insurance either. They will most likely set you up with some state aid to cover testing and medication costs. You might even get your care for free. It's all based off income. But back to your question, no odor and no STD = normal. We all have a little discharge from time to time even if we don't like to admit it. One last thought is that you may also have an unbalanced pH. But you will still want to talk to a doctor or nurse about it if you have the time.Very personal problem...any advice?
    Have you thought it could be Thrush?


    An over the counter diagnosis with your local pharmacist should uncover the problem
    You did'nt have a yeast infection for a whole year. There's something else going on. If your married,then your husband should pay for your next exam. I strongly advise you see a Gynecologist immediately,and because your still having sex,then he should be checked out too!. Your local health dept. will give both of you exams for free,and so will Planned Parenthood. (PS) You have some kind of medical problem,and I would'nt trust a store-bought item,to give accurate results.
    You can go to a local pharmacy and see what they have for yest infections. do NOT douche because it just pushes the bacteria farther up and can make you really sick. Also all women get a white thickish discharge right before and after their because of ovulation, but it shouldn't wet the pants. If you go to the health department it's a lot cheaper and they can see if there is something really wrong. yeast infections can turn into PID if untreated and that can be deadly.
    I would try the kit that tells you what kind it is.You should be able to find an otc remedy at your local drug store for whatever infection it says you have.Not all yeast infections are caused by std's but you can give it to your husband. Every woman will have at least 1 yeast infection in her life. If you do decide to go to your doc make sure to tell him about the reaction you had to the meds he gave you. If your town has a local health department try going there. It's cheaper and they deal with this type of problem all the time.
    Hi Little Deer,





    There are so many causes of yeast infections which is why so many people get them unfortunately! But there are ways of getting rid of it. When I first got it I went straight to the doctors and he suggested creams etc which got rid of it at first but it kept coming back no matter how many different products I tried.





    In the end I did some research on the internet and found a website with a completely natural way to get rid of it for good and, touch wood, I haven't had it again since! I hope this works for you too! If you want to give it a try you can find it at


    http://www.QuickYeastInfectionCure.com





    Don't worry - I found a great cure and you will too!

    Im to get my hair cut next week.i have relaxed hair im trying to grow out. any advice or personal experiences?

    What you realy need to do is get a style that fits your hair but not too short! if you get a hair cut it will help your hair grow longer! if you dont get it cut your hair will start to fray and it may even start to fall out! well hope fully this helps!Im to get my hair cut next week.i have relaxed hair im trying to grow out. any advice or personal experiences?
    Can you please add more detials and I'll help you!!!

    Personal finance question. Advice about real estate and renting.?

    I got accepted into a Physician Assistant Program for Undergraduate. I know that they make about 80-100k if I go into surgery. I would be 23 when I get my BS and Masters in Physician Assistant. I am thinking of saving money for two years and buy a two family house in my area for about 500-600k, since two family houses are expensive and get money off the rent when I am 25. Then I would use my previous house which my parents would give to me and convert this to a two family house and make a profit since the rent income would be higher than the mortgage(this is for the first house). But I am actually wondering more about buying my second house. I want to gain lots of money off the rent from my two houses so that I could buy a luxurious one family house when I turn about 32 after saving lots of money and then living a nice life. What do you think? Please give me any advice. Remember, I really want to use real estate as a big asset to me. Thanks.Personal finance question. Advice about real estate and renting.?
    Well, for one, you are not going to be making ';lots of money'; off of a two unit in that price range. After your mortgage and income tax payments I doubt you will even break even.





    The other problem is you are assuming you can convert a home into a 2 family easily. You can not, not unless the zoning is already MFH, not SFH.





    While you are working out the numbers do not forget the gift tax you will be owing on the house your parents are giving you, it is going to be killer.Personal finance question. Advice about real estate and renting.?
    first,, you have a good plan,,second ,, you need better advice than your going to get in here ,,set down with your bank and ask the same question of their financial advisers ,,they are the ones that will be handling the money for you
    I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but being a landlord is no fun and it usually doesn't make you rich either. It is a long term investment, meaning that you would have to have paid for properties before you really started making any money and that takes about thirty years. You have to deal with tenants and they usually don't take care of YOUR PROPERTY. Then there are repairs that can be costly, eating up more of your profits. Basically what you would be doing here is paying off interest on a mortgage and never even touching the principal and you would not really be making any money, all you would be doing is paying the mortgages and giving yourself a HUGE HEADACHE. I did an analysis on some properties that someone I know owns and figured they were making $2,000.00 a year per property and they owned three properties. For $6,000.00 a year it isn't worth the headaches you go through with the tenants.





    I actually found a web site that calculates this for you. Here is the site, you put your numbers in and figure it out.





    Ohh and by the way I have worked in accounting for 27 years, have a college degree, and used to own apartments.





    If you haven't heard this before, THERE ARE NO GET RICH QUICK DEALS IN LIFE. IT ALL TAKES HARD WORK.
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  • Personal school lunchtime advice? NOT about schoolwork.?

    please take the time to read. i need help %26amp; hopefully i think maybe some of you can come up with the right advice %26amp; if you do i'd be so thankful :) Lol, it's so long but pleaseeee read it. it's actually interesting :)





    Okay, so I'm a girl, I'm in grade 8 %26amp; i only have like 1 real friend in my class. There are like 2 other girls that i talk to %26amp; are nice in my class. I also have this guyfriend in my class. i've known him since grade 1. I kinda think he's gay, I mean like homosexual. my friend, in my class also thinks that %26amp; so do some other friends outta class. But hes reaaaalllly nice %26amp; everyone likes him (as a friend) but he eats lunch alone, maybe cause he's too shy to go sit with someone else.... Soo .....


    Now that I've told you about the people i communucate with in my class, lets get to my problem. :


    I kinda feel uncool eating lunch with my only friend in class.


    She used to be like my best friend but now I think shes kinda lame %26amp; too quiet %26amp; all. I'm not saying I'm really cool or anything but I really wanna eat lunch with someone else. There are these other 4 girls. They're like the only cool girls in my class. (Well, there are only 8 girls in my class including me %26amp; i mentioned all of them LOL). Soo.. those 4 girls are the cool ones in my class %26amp; I wanna eat lunch with them. Not just to be cool but cause I ned to SPREAD OUT MY BRANCHES! lol.


    Just because they're cool, they're not all bossy, mean, rude %26amp; make fun of people. They actually are very nice.


    the other 2 girls in my class used to eat lunch together but now now they eat with those 4 girls starting today!


    One of those 2 girls just always gives the 4 girls things. Maybe to be friends with them %26amp; the other girl just started talking to them %26amp; now eats lunch with them. I wanna eat lunch with them too. Me %26amp; my friend are the only girls who don't eat lunch with them now %26amp; i feel uncool about it. I'm not saying I wanna ditch my friend or something, like once I go and eat lunch with them my friend will come too.


    But now the real problem is that I don't know how to start!


    One of those ';cool'; girls used to be in my class last year %26amp; last year she used to be like all rude to me %26amp; everything but she still loved me.


    Lol, i had a complicated relationship with her that you might not understand. I mean like she was all mean/rudish to me but we were still kinda friends. This year she's changed and is reaaaaallly nice to me... the other 3 girls are really nice to %26amp; so are the 2 girls that started eating lunch with them.


    (I know you might be getting confused but I don't wanna name any names, sorry.)


    I don't wanna just go up to them %26amp; ask ';can I eat with you?';


    cause i'm scared that the one who was in my class last year will say no, %26amp; if she does it's gonna be soo embarassing. i don't wanna take the chance. i don't wanna ask the 2 other girls either cause i'm not comfortable asking them.


    Soo... how should I start?


    I'll do whatever it takes - un-embarassing!


    Is there anyone I can use? Like my guyfriend I told you about or something? Can I put up an act? Should I give them stuff to be friends with them? Should I start by talking with them nicely?


    WHAT SHOULD I DO? I'LL DO WHATEVER!


    please don't say giving them things to be friends with them is not good. if it'll work, tell me. I mean like I don't wanna be real good friends with them or anything. I just wanna EAT LUNCH WITH THEM! %26amp; please don't say using people is not nice cause right now even that doesn't matter to me :$


    just tell me what'll work.





    PLEEEAAAASEEE ANSWER %26amp; GIVE ME SOME GOOD ADVICE CAUSE I NEED IT !


    your answer doesnt have to be superlong. whichever answer works or i think could work gets best answer. %26amp; those of you who had a good answer but think you had a best answer, contact me %26amp; tell me what I can do for you guys...anything ....


    This really means a lot to me. Please take it seriously


    Some of you may think I'm so lame %26amp; my problem is lame but whatever. i just need some people who can feel me! :)





    please %26amp; thanks :)Personal school lunchtime advice? NOT about schoolwork.?
    Well just go up to them and casually say ';Hey Guys'; as you sit down! That's what I do.. When I see a group of people at school that I wanna hang out with I just say ';Hey'; and they all o along with it and we hang out. You just need to be confident, if you act scared things will be awkward but if you're confident things will work out for the best. Good luck :)Personal school lunchtime advice? NOT about schoolwork.?
    Got my permission to eat with any one you want to, it's lunch not a date. Good idea if you could all eat together. Ask the guy too, he might enjoy all the girl talk if he's gay like you all think.

    Personal statement, some advice please?

    this is my personal statement for a diploma course in teaching. please give me honest feedback on what i should change/improve and what you feel i should add im a bit stuck. please not the .... part is where i will either be entering bsl or makaton as i want to take a sign language course but im not sure what age makaton fades out and bsl begins so i need to find out which one would be better for me to learn. many thanks





    I still remember my favourite primary school teacher nearly 14 years on. I would like to think that in 30 years time a child I have taught will say the same about me. A good teacher has the ability to change lives, to show you the ability in yourself you never knew you had and to install you with self confidence and belief. You have asked me to tell you why I want to be a teacher, I could give you many reasons but the main reason for me is that when you love a job it stops becoming work.


    I have previously worked with children in nursery setting and have an nvq2 in childcare. I now work as a carer for an agency mainly doing home visits so the range of experience is amazing. However saying that, unfortunately there is very little progression career wise and mainly working with palliative patients it can be very emotionally draining, which is why i feel a career in teaching would be much more beneficial.


    I am also applying for a part time course in.... so I will have a wider variety of skills and maybe go on to specialise in working with special needs.Personal statement, some advice please?
    I think overall content is excellent but I'd raise an eyebrow at the part where you've put ';...which is why I feel a career in teaching would be much more beneficial';. In the context it's in, I'd make an assumption that you find working with palliative care patients difficult because of the emotional connotations and yet teaching can be very emotional too, and would you struggle to cope with that? I'm not suggesting you would struggle, I'm only suggesting that's how it may be perceived?





    I would be delighted if my son was taught by a teacher that he respected, thrived under and remembered for a long time. Sadly he has had only one teacher that made a lasting impression on him for the right reasons.





    The part where you put that when you love a job it stops becoming work, I think that's a delightful phrase! Wishing you all the best :)

    Personal transformation change advice?

    I am in college and have not made any friends. I am 19 years old and have never had a girlfriend. I have lost a lot of confidence and started avoiding social situations about a year ago. I probably have the social skills of a 16 year old and can't hold up a decent conversation coz I get nervous and start to think people will realize how much of a wuss I am and that I really have no life and I am boring. and will not have one unless I change..I don't know how to change though. Should I just try talking to as much people as possible? Where? What do I say to start a conversation with a stranger? How do I build back self confidence? People say just be yourself and accept yourself, but that can't work for me because right now myself is my worst self. I need to be a better person. I need to build a life for myself. How do I start?Personal transformation change advice?
    You develop confidence in yourself by learning to like who and what you are and stop trying to be something that you are not. You have to learn that you might admire the lifes of the party, but if you are not a life of the party, so what? However tou are will be appreciated in its own time; lifes of the party are appreciated only at parties. Every person has their time.Personal transformation change advice?
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    Well, I used to be like that at 14, but got over it at 16/17 and had the most fun ever since (im 22). Look buddy, first of all you gotta accept yourself, you are unique and have good things and flaws. Ok, that said i gotta say you gotta relax, dont talk too much cuz you'll end up saying things you don't mean or becoming someone else's buttler. When you get to a place pay attention: you'll the clowns, the guys in control, the wanna be's and so on. The best ice breaker is always ';hi';, you can start talking about the event/party/whatever and then introduce yourself... after that it's all gonna go right. Most people are not confident, but the show themself as confident people (cuz that's attractive, thats why you follow leaders), so if you are not confident, start to fake it until it becomes a part of you. jeje, that's all i can say, hope it helps :P
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    Steps:





    Figure out what makes you feel shy. Do you become shy in front of audiences? When learning a new skill? When venturing into a new situation? When surrounded by people you know and admire? When you don't know anyone somewhere? Try to pinpoint the thoughts that go through your head right before the shyness hits. Then come up with some ';I'; statements that you can repeat to yourself, like a mantra, to head off those thoughts: ';I can do this';, ';I look good';, ';I have something to offer';, etc.





    Build your self confidence. Everyone has some special gift or trait to offer to the world. It sounds corny, but it's true. Think about what you know, what you can do, what you have accomplished, not about how you look or sound or dress. And keep in mind that everyone, even the ';beautiful people';, has something about themselves or their life that they don't like. There's no particular reason why your ';problem'; should make you shy while their ';problem'; doesn't make them shy.





    Get comfortable. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you, and build up your confidence through them. Eventually, this will translate to other situations being more comfortable.





    Close your eyes and visualize a situation where you might be shy. Now, in your mind's eye, make yourself feel confident. Do this often, and for different situations. This is most effective if you do this daily, especially in the morning. It might feel silly, but athletes use visualization to develop their skills, so why not you?





    Maintain close bonds with your friends, as they can be there for you as you crack out of your shell. They'll be glad to help and encourage you with your progress.





    Look and act approachable. Convey an open, friendly attitude with your body language.





    Smile and make eye contact. A simple smile in the direction of a stranger may brighten your day, and it will brighten theirs, too! Smiling is a friendly way to acknowledge others, and it makes a pretty good lead-in to start a conversation with anyone, stranger or friend. It breaks the ice and loosens up your facial muscles, too.





    Practice good posture and speaking clearly. Standing tall gives the world the impression that you are self-confident and receptive to others. Speaking clearly will help avoid the potential embarrassment of needing to repeat what you said due to mumbling or talking too quietly.





    Laugh often, but only at things you find genuinely amusing. It will help ease any tension you may be feeling and will make you feel more relaxed.





    Don't look preoccupied. Don't work on papers, text or do your make-up if you want someone to talk to you.





    Set goals for yourself. Focus on small, daily accomplishments, then gradually become more daring.





    Make a list of situations that make you feel anxious. Order them so that those things that cause you the least anxiety are first and those that cause you the most anxiety are last. Once you have a list of 10-15 stressful situations, start working through them, one-by-one. The first few ';easier'; situations will help build your confidence so that you can continue moving to more difficult situations on your list. Don't worry if you have to go backwards on the list sometimes; take it at your own pace, but make an effort to push yourself.





    Introduce yourself to one new person each day. It is often easier to talk with strangers, at least briefly. After all, you may never see them again, so who cares what they think about you?





    Make new friends. Talk to somebody you would not normally think about having a conversation with. Try to find people who share one or more of your interests and find excuses to talk to them. It is great practice for more daring behavior, such as talking to popular, charismatic people. Initiate conversation with a simple starter, such as, ';That's a nice bag, where did you get it?'; or ';It's really nice outside, don't you think?'; Most people are good-natured and will be welcoming to your advances. People often indicate that they are interested in conversing by starting this way, so learn to take the bait when it arises, and try to say as much in response as possible.





    Try doing stuff you never dreamed you would. Doing something really outlandish, like sky diving, will: a) provide an endorphin rush; and b) give you a story to tell when you are making conversation with people. And if you can find the courage to do something that big, then something like talking to a cute girl/guy should seem easy.

    Personal issue!! need advice on wat to do!! can sumone help?

    okay if ur willing to read this really long message that would b nice!! i need the advice so here i go.. so im having a BIG PROBLEM! im 18 years old. i have a 5 month old baby girl. i have no car, no job, no education! i live with my mom and her fiance %26amp; my grandfather. my dad just started coming around the baby about a month ago. he wasn't around for awhile because my baby's father is 50% black 50% white. hes racist. but i love him despite the fact. my father has ALWAYS been in my life even tho he split from my mom when i was 2 years old. my father always SPOILED me with everything that ive ever wanted %26amp; now hes doing so with my baby. i mean he spent almost $1,000 in one day on her! but before i had her he was begging me to get an abortion or consider adoption. BUT THOSE 2 CHOICES ARE OUT OF THE QUESTION! my baby's father is still in her life! also in my life but my dad doesn't know that because he would be angry%26amp;cut me off! well u see me %26amp; nick have problems.. he hits me wen he gets mad, hes cheated once%26amp;he smokes weed but we've been together for 2years %26amp; i don't wanna give up so easily over the problems he has %26amp; because im not perfect%26amp; have problems too! so i cant judge him for that. but besides his bipolar episodes, hes fine%26amp; we get along GREAT!!!! my home life is horrible, my mom is a LOUD, CRAZY, ITALIAN WOMAN!! wen she gets mad, which wen she usually gets mad its coming from nowhere, she screams %26amp;beats the **** outta of me in front of my daughter!! she has problems with everything %26amp; bitches non stop. she chooses her fiance over me%26amp; i cant deal with it! she tells me she wants me out %26amp; trust me! i want out!! i just don't know where to go %26amp; i cant get a job until my daughter turns one %26amp; is off the breast! she refuses formula%26amp; throws it up! i mean i cant even pump breast milk because she wont take any thing from a bottle! so im stuck! her father has made an offer to have me move 2,000 miles away from home with him. he says he'll seek therapy for his drugs %26amp; anger problems!! but theres alot of risks im taking when moving away. my dad not being in my life to help me out %26amp; nick not changing his problems! i need advice %26amp; help where to go? wat to do? for my baby's well being! i hate living in a dysfunctional environment %26amp; my daughter growing up like that! i need sum advice please!!! PLEASE NO MEAN COMMENTS!!!! IM A GOOD MOTHER%26amp; TAKE GOOD CARE OF MY BABY!!! SO DONT JUDGE ME!!! I NEED ANSWERS!!! NOT CRITICISM!!!!Personal issue!! need advice on wat to do!! can sumone help?
    I suggest that you have a frank talk with your dad. Tell him that you need a place to a stay for about a year. Offer to do all the housekeeping, cleaning, laundry, and maybe some light yard work in exchange for a place to stay. You need to get away from your mother. Whatever you do, do not move in with Nick either. He is abusive. He is not a good person and you are so young. If he wanted to seek treatment for his addictions, he would of already done so. You have your whole life ahead of you . You need to remove yourself and your daughter from all abusers. I also suggest not living with your dad too long because of the negative impact his racism will have on her self-esteem. Basically, try to get through her first birthday living with your dad. Then try to find a program for young homeless mothers where they provide childcare while you get job training. Some cities have such programs. Best of luck to you.Personal issue!! need advice on wat to do!! can sumone help?
    May I respectfully say that for the moment you should go with your dad as far away from your present place as possible. If the baby's daddy has hit you once, he will again. If he cheated on you once that you know about, he will again. My son in law is black and he has a job, and he respects his wife, and son (my grandson is one year old today) . So this has nothing to do with race. It has to do with raising your child in the best possible environment. The ideal thing would be if your dad could get you a small apartment of your own, so that you don't have to put up with your dad's bad behavior either. Encourage your dad to go to anger management. Try to meet up with other moms, like at the playground or preschool, when that starts. See if you can work out watching each others kids so you can get a break.


    Or see if you can find some kind of work from home.
    First of all, you sound like you are doing your very best to be a great mom! Congratulations for that. You are very young and its not surprising that you are confused, you've got a lot going on in your life.





    First and foremost, your daughter needs to be your number one priority, you are all she's got and the decisions you make now, will shape the type of human being she will become. Moving out with Nick is a very bad idea, although you may think you love him, you don't love someone who hurts you. Even though he's angry its never OK for him to abuse you, what happens when he turns on the baby? You need to leave him, and tell him that he will only be able to have supervised visits with your daughter. Once he cleans up his life, you can re-assess that situation.





    As for living with your mom, she sounds like she's creating a horrible atmosphere for you to raise your baby in. You need to leave, as I said before, its NEVER OK for someone to abuse you regardless of who it is. She sounds like she's got her own problems, and she's taking it all out on you.





    Your relationship with your father sounds like the only good relationship you have. Maybe your dad really isn't racist, maybe he just hates Nick because of what he's done to you- if he can love your daughter, race has nothing to do with it. You need to talk to your dad and see if he would be willing to help you, finish your schooling and be the role model that you know you can be. You and your daughter will be a stronger for it. You've got a tough road ahead but from your long message, I think you already knew all of this and just needed someone to confirm your thoughts. You will make the right choice for you and your baby, and you'll give her a great life!





    Good luck!
    Alright First of all DO NOT move away with nick.That could very well lead to terrible things especially if you get there and he doesnt get help and continues to beat you. You CAN NOT raise that baby with him beating you. Now when the child gets a little older he may start to beat her so you really need to watch out for that. The day he lays a hand on her you need to get out. i am a child of physical abuse and my mother left me in his care and i was beat until i was put into an adoption agency and that took 10 years.you dont want that for her.Now since you are eighteen and depending on what state you live in they do have victim centers for that stuff and they can help you with financial and housing issues. REgardless though you need to get out because that is a toxic situation. Now dont go out and move tomorrow. If you like i will try to help you find different places. i need to know the state you live in though and i will do extensive research.





    i will be here to listen and help anytime you need it. let me know if you want me to help.





    precious1413@yahoo.com








    please email ASAP and let me know yea or no
    I'm sorry to hear that.


    Try this- take online classes. Get a simple, easy-to-get degree in a subject you're strong in. By the time you finish, your baby should be around 1 years old. There are jobs out there for high school diplomats, and online class graduates. Work out a schedule. If you baby naps in the morning, get an afternoon shift somewhere. If she naps in the afternoon, get a morning shift. You could start off with a small job, like at Starbucks to have experience. Over time, apply to bigger jobs and use your older jobs in the experience section of your resume. Maybe with the counseling, your boyfriend can go over to your house and take care of your baby for long periods of time. Save lots of money. Find an okay area, rent an apartment, and since your dad spoils you, let him help in paying the rent. Bring furniture from your old home.





    Don't lose hope! Good Luck!
    I'm sorry things are so rough for you. Being a new mom is hard enough without all of those challenges. Here are some things you can do to become independent so that you will have some more options.


    1) Contact the hospital where your baby was born and ask about renting a breast pump. They will also have someone available to teach you and your baby to work with artificial nipples so baby will stop throwing up.


    2)The boyfriend will also hit your child, and you are responsible for protecting her. You have to leave him even though you love him. I'm sorry. He will not stop.


    3) Your father sounds like he is trying to be a better person. Accept him and his help, and tell him that you need help getting an apartment an a job with a company that has a breastfeeding lounge and onsite childcare. There are more of them than you think.


    4)Be strong enough to do all of these things and you will be a great mother to your daughter. Do not compromise on what is best for her, and everything will work out fine.


    Good luck!
    I wish I could help you with all of this but there are only few things I can tell you. Don't think about going back with nick. Once a guy starts beating up someone, they don't stop, lets say they become more likely to hit you after the first time. Also, he is in drugs you don't want your baby to have such an environment. I know you said you don't judge him because you are not perfect. You might not be perfect, but you have a moral, something nick doesn't have. You are involved in a really hard situation, if i were you I would ask your dad for help, just for a while until you get a job. I know it's going to be hard for your baby, you got into a big problem and you have to find the way out to get out of it. Maybe you can find a family member or someone you trust that can stay with your baby while you work, cause judging by your situation there's no way to wait a year before finding a job. I believe you can also get help from the government like that program they have called W.E.E.K.


    Good luck

    Personal issue!! NEED advice on wat to do!! can someone please HELP?

    okay if ur willing to read this really long message that would b nice!! i need the advice so here i go.. so im having a BIG PROBLEM! im 18 years old. i have a 5 month old baby girl. i have no car, no job, no education! i live with my mom and her fiance %26amp; my grandfather. my dad just started coming around the baby about a month ago. he wasn't around for awhile because my baby's father is 50% black 50% white. hes racist. but i love him despite the fact. my father has ALWAYS been in my life even tho he split from my mom when i was 2 years old. my father always SPOILED me with everything that ive ever wanted %26amp; now hes doing so with my baby. i mean he spent almost $1,000 in one day on her! but before i had her he was begging me to get an abortion or consider adoption. BUT THOSE 2 CHOICES ARE OUT OF THE QUESTION! my baby's father is still in her life! also in my life but my dad doesn't know that because he would be angry%26amp;cut me off! well u see me %26amp; nick have problems.. he hits me wen he gets mad, hes cheated once%26amp;he smokes weed but we've been together for 2years %26amp; i don't wanna give up so easily over the problems he has %26amp; because im not perfect%26amp; have problems too! so i cant judge him for that. but besides his bipolar episodes, hes fine%26amp; we get along GREAT!!!! my home life is horrible, my mom is a LOUD, CRAZY, ITALIAN WOMAN!! wen she gets mad, which wen she usually gets mad its coming from nowhere, she screams %26amp;beats the **** outta of me in front of my daughter!! she has problems with everything %26amp; bitches non stop. she chooses her fiance over me%26amp; i cant deal with it! she tells me she wants me out %26amp; trust me! i want out!! i just don't know where to go %26amp; i cant get a job until my daughter turns one %26amp; is off the breast! she refuses formula%26amp; throws it up! i mean i cant even pump breast milk because she wont take any thing from a bottle! so im stuck! her father has made an offer to have me move 2,000 miles away from home with him. he says he'll seek therapy for his drugs %26amp; anger problems!! but theres alot of risks im taking when moving away. my dad not being in my life to help me out %26amp; nick not changing his problems! i need advice %26amp; help where to go? wat to do? for my baby's well being! i hate living in a dysfunctional environment %26amp; my daughter growing up like that! i need sum advice please!!! PLEASE NO MEAN COMMENTS!!!! IM A GOOD MOTHER%26amp; TAKE GOOD CARE OF MY BABY!!! SO DONT JUDGE ME!!! I NEED ANSWERS!!! NOT CRITICISM!!!!Personal issue!! NEED advice on wat to do!! can someone please HELP?
    Wow, that is rough. I would say move in with your dad for awhile. You are unclear as to the level of involvement of your dad. You said he was starting to come around, that he spoils you, and also that he is not in your life. If he is around, move in with. Or, find a cousin or other relative you can stay. Avoid any abuse at all cost. Ideally, you and Nick need to get married, but not until he cleans up his ways. If these are not good options, go on public assistance until you can support yourself. Being a single mom ain't easy. Do your best and good luck.

    Any Advice On A Personal Matter ..?

    ive been sexually active for about a year and a half and have been with my gf for the past 11 months , we've been having sex for the past month and all of a sudden my penis wont seem to maintain an erection .. no matter what she does .. I'm 16 and feel i shoudnt be having these types of problems at my age ... Can anybody help ?Any Advice On A Personal Matter ..?
    you need to take a break


    try not having sex OR masturbating for two weeks straight and then you'll be ready to go


    good luck!


    Any Advice On A Personal Matter ..?
    Just leave it alone for 1-2 weeks and it'll recover!





    E.G no sex or masturbation for 2 weeks.
    Its a sign to wait till marriage mate, your penis shouldnt be active at your age.
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  • What advice can u give me from personal experience?

    Your saturn sucks!





    WWhat advice can u give me from personal experience?
    if one day u crazy in love or married..don't put your family (parents and sibling ) a side...u will always need them and they will always love u..if something happen to your life ..u will go to themWhat advice can u give me from personal experience?
    don't always trust the people on here
    ...on what topic?
    study hard and be filial to your parents
    When we go swing dancing just follow my lead D!
    About what? Breathing? Well, you must inhale and exhale or you'll die !
    NEVER trust anyone. Trust must be earned.
    Never stand between a dog and the hydrant.
    Buy real estate when your young.It always goes up.
    Dont get married cuz Divorce hurts
    treat everyone like you would like to be treated
    Never trust a guy with 2 heads
    Let the small stuff go.
    wherever you go, no matter what's the weather, always bring your own sunshine.
    Do as I do, don't do as I say!
    Do not define yourself based upon how other people perceive you.
    don't ever, give an advice to anyone. They will blame you if things go south for them.
    Free advice is worth what you pay for it.
    Always pay MORE than the minimum amount due.
    Live and let die. The greatest challenge in life will be your attitude towards death and how you come to accept it. You'll find this translates into how you deal with all forms of stress.
    Marry someone you REALLY LIKE as WELL as ';love!'; I married my best friend, and I couldn't be happier 12 years later...=)
    Be aware of the evil trolls

    Do you take criticism as a personal attack or helpful advice?

    My first response would usually be to try to defend myself or explain, especially if I think what was said is unwarranted.





    However, if the criticism is offered constructively and deep down I realize that there's some truth to it, I'll try to learn from it.





    We all want to get better, don't we?Do you take criticism as a personal attack or helpful advice?
    It depends on the way it was given. I normally can take criticism as a helping tool but there are some people who tend to give it in order to hurt and humiliate. Then I take it personally.Do you take criticism as a personal attack or helpful advice?
    depends on how it was delivered. If it was respectful and not off the wall then yes I might take it into consideration.
    Depends on who its from and how its given. Generally, not well taken.
    It depends on if it's constructive or not.
    If it's someone in the family or a close friend then I think they are being helpful. Any other person and I get mad.
    i TAKE IT AS A CRY FOR A MAJOR BAETDOWN!!!
    well sometimes it can hurt but if u never got criticiezed then u would never change (well thats my opinion) soo baisically it hurts sometimes and i take that as an advice!!!
    when i was younger i always took it as an attack. now i take it in and think about it. . . .if i think they are right then i make changes if i can. if i think they are wrong i just smile and say ';thanks for your advice'; and then forget about it. Life is too short to worry about what other people think about you. Be you and you alone.
    a tool for sharpening my perfection.........
    The truth may hurt, but definitely helpful advice.

    What MONEY advice would you give a friend (from you're PERSONAL experiences)?

    First thing is to budget. It can be a pain at first, but the sense of control you have over your own money gets addictive.





    Second thing is to get out of debt. You have to work that monthly sacrifice into your budget. Personal debts and credit card debts are the most important. Credit cards can be very useful, but cc debt is *evil*. Remember, if you can't afford it now then you probably can't afford it later.





    Once you have your debt under control, start saving. (House or car are reasonable debts but credit cards are not.) You are already used to setting aside some extra cash to pay off your debt. Now you can start saving it. Save for a variety of things - emergencies, toys, entertainment, gifts, vacation. It's a great feeling to be able to choose.





    This is the short version and is only a rough outline of what has worked for me. I have definetly made some serious financial mistakes in my time and can honestly say that my advice is based on experience.What MONEY advice would you give a friend (from you're PERSONAL experiences)?
    Cut back on unnessary purchases. If you can't pay cash for it then you don't need it.


    Put money aside, no matter how little you can each paycheck, it will add up if you vow not to touch it.What MONEY advice would you give a friend (from you're PERSONAL experiences)?
    Spend it you cant take it with you
    work hard, spend on good things, always keep aside some for rainy days...





    if you earn $1000, keep $100 in your bank as savings, never widraw the private saving, i advice to safe it for a minimum of 6 year, lets calculate...





    $100 per/month= $1200 per/year x 6years


    =$7200 + Interest


    =$+-$8000 after 6 years(if you think abt it, its not bad, only with $100 per/month you'll get $8000 or even more when you keep on saving for 6 years)





    We work hard to spend and when spend we have to have a budget, if there is no budget, there will be no records of spending, always spend lesser than you make, my mistake when i was in Uni, i used to spend more than i get, tht created problems which led me to wrong line like gambling, etc....B smart, b wise.
    Its not how much you make... Its how much YOU KEEP !! Stop spending it all and soon it will be making more money on its own.





    Fools and money are soon parted !





    The wealthy buy things that make them more money.





    We all get to make choices everyday regarding our own money... SOME just happen to be making the wrong choices.
    earn some %26amp; spend like you dont have any ;O)
    Don't spend it all in one place.