I need Advice regarding my personal morality, and future education!?

My grandma had a heart attack...


and now my Uncle is proposing that I go to C.O.D(local community college) and live with my grandma


so i can take care of her for two years.


Shes not only a widow, but her boyfriend recently died as well. in other words, shes lonely.





(she lives in close by in a nice little country club)





If i turn down this offer, Im selfish.


Ive already gotten myself into college; and I thought I had avoided prolonging my stay here entirely.


Ive earned good grades.








If i take this offer;


Im potentially changing the course of my life.


but it means a nice,free living environment,and a car.











If heaven for bid, something should happen to her in the course of the 2 years...where does that put me?


Would living with a 18 year old benefit her condition at all?


Am i even allowed to live in a retirement center????!..











lend me your thoughts.I need Advice regarding my personal morality, and future education!?
You are not allowed to live in a retirement center. You might get away with it for several months, even a year, but it is not allowed.





There will come a time when it will come down to her having to move, because you will no longer be allowed to stay with her.





When this happens, you are worse off than square one. You are in community college instead of college, and you have no place to live. This could happen in the middle of heavy school work loads, and having to move, plus the stress of what will happen with your grandma could all cause you to have issues with your grades.





You are not being selfish by saying no. No one should force this idea on you. This is a wonderful idea, and there is a lot of heart behind you wanting and not being sure about doing it.





Unfortunately, you need to have secure and set living conditions before you start school. You need to go to the school that will be best for your future and that you are already accepted into. If your grandma had her own house in the same city as your college, then you wouldn't even be asking us what we think.





This is too much to ask of you, and as nice as it is to consider it, you can't live in uncertain living conditions while trying to get your proper education. It's too risky.





Good luck!I need Advice regarding my personal morality, and future education!?
Sounds like you are already leaning towards living with your grandmother. There is a movie with Cameron Diaz in which involves her and her sister staying at their grandmothers retirement community, you should watch it.





On the other hand, if she is in a retirement center, surely there are tons of people around to keep her company.
Forget about the car and free rent although these are bonuses. If you go with your grandma you are there to help her and keep her company not to live off of her. This question may not have an easy answer. It will be a burden on you but is not the end of the world. At worst it will set you back a few years school wise but, is not like school has a maximum age you can attend. The question is whether you will loose any scholarships and other benefits. What about the colleges around that area? You can transfer you know. People do it all the time, they start out in one school and finish in another. Note that there are some restrictions as not all of your credits may transfer and you have to take a minimum number of courses with that particular school.





Another alternative is to do a sort of tour of duty. this is sacrifice a semester but then is someone else's turn. There has to be other family members. Also, like you say I don't think they allow young people in old retirement homes. My advice is for you to research all your options. What you loose what you win, were you will live etc etc and once you gather all the pertinent info then make an educated desition.
Your in for a tough situation. But really, if something were to happen to your Grandma, and knowing that you weren't there for her when she needed you the most, how would you feel? Going to a Community College may save you money and it might not be as half bad as how people put it out to be. 2 years will pass by fast, and you can always transfer to a University after that, so just do it.





Good luck with everything. Also, I don't know, I don't even think you can live in a retirement center, lol...