Need advice - Live-in boyfriend needs personal space?

I have been living with my boyfriend for 1 year, we have been together for almost 3 yrs. He has always maintained that he needs personal space and doesnt feel he gets enough of it. For the past 4 months he sleeps on the sofa rather than our bed because he claims the bedroom gets too hot. Recently, I caught him masturbating to his computer and when I questioned him if he was chatting with someone he swore that he wasn't. Rather, he was looking at pics. I am ok with the masturbating, but everything else seems to be taking its toll. We have a good relationship and both have very stressful jobs. He ends up bringing work home with him during the week and usually falls asleep working on it. On the weekends, we do spend time together. I really need advice or insight into our situation. Lately, I have been feeling ignored and confused.Need advice - Live-in boyfriend needs personal space?
Tell him that while you know he needs his space, that you have needs too. A relationship is not just about one person's needs. In the meantime, give him his space and see if he comes back to the bed.Need advice - Live-in boyfriend needs personal space?
everyone needs personal space its natural but from reading your question it seems he has placed his needs as well as his job above you and what you need in stressful jobs we sometimes forget there is another part of life besides work that needs attrition my advise is have a talk see what he has to say and be honest with him tell him how you really feel then decide if this is working for you but don't be the only one in the relationship it can be very lonely..
this is so typical. men will cling to you, then pull a switch-a-roo....don't worry, i'd say give him his ';personal space'; go out with your friends/fam. Give him the space he needs, and then he'll bring his a** to bed. Do you masturbate? Get off in the bedroom, close the door. Believe me, he'll come knocking. Men are a trip. So what if he got off on some pics (as long as it's nothing sick or weird) online. It's just porn...but as long as it doesn't become an addiction. However, like I said...give him personal space. Get yours too. Don't waste energy pondering over this. You are wasting energy that's why you're on Yahoo Answers (which is cool as hell by the way) ;-) but seriously, start doing things alone and enjoy your PERSONAL space too. Then say, babe...this personal space thing is cool you talked about. I think it's good for us, then give him a kiss and say, i'm going out, I'll call ya later. He's gonna stop you like, ';where are you going?'; hehe. Play it cool girl. He'll get dat mind right shortly. good luck ;-)
Is he masturbating instead of having sex with you? When he tells you he isn't chatting with someone on the computer or he sleeps on the couch because it's too hot in the bedroom are you comfortable with those answers?


If you are comfortable with those answers and there are no warning bells clanging in your head that he's lying then you may have to accept that this is how he is and decide if that is something you can live with.


If your inner warning bells are going off maybe do some snooping or just ask him out right if there is something going on. (Snooping his computer is not the most honest method - but it can be the most useful.)
If he needs his personal space so badly then tell him to go to a buddy/relatives house, because he is totally playing with you. He's not having sex with you?! and he's placing his job before you?! These are signs honey, that it's not working anymore. I'm sorry you deserve so much better.
He doesn't want to tell you, but he doesn't think of you as his lady love anymore. IF he truly loved you, you wouldn't catch him masturbating, he'd want sex with you instead. Also, he would sleep with you in your bed.


See the signs? Get out while you can.
You need to ask him what's going on and tell him how you are feeling. While it's good to have one's personal space there are other ways to go about getting that space than distancing yourself from your partner. Find out if something else is going on. Good luck.