I just moved from China to Japan in order to be with my boyfriend of 4 years. Upon my arrival I found out he was offerred a really good job in Shanghai, and he fully intends to move to China in a month....Our original plan was that once I got to Japan we would figure out what to do, or basically which country offerred us the best opportunities (Japan or America) and then go on from there. China was never an option as I just spent the past year there and hated every minute of it, and he knows that, so he said even if I wanted to accompany him to Shanghai he wouldnt let me. His work in Shanghai will be completed in a year and he says we can be together after that..
So basically, he is saying that we cant spend the next year together and I have to go back to America and he to China.
Am I crazy in thinking that he;s being selfish? Am I the one being selfish in thinking he should turn down this opportunity (btw, he was rejected by over 140 japanese companies)?How should I feel? what should I do? personal Q (long) any advice appreciated.?
I don't think he's being selfish...in fact, quite the opposite...he is trying to look out for you because he thinks that you won't like it in China again, so he doesn't want to put you through that again.....and p.s., no I don't think he should turn it down, he needs to follow his career path....but anyway, with that being said, you need to dig deep down inside yourself and figure out why you disliked China and see if you can maybe change some things and go back there and enjoy it this time....if you can't see yourself back there no matter what, then the solution is simple....you go to where you are happy and you come visit him in China for a couple of weeks here and there.....you have extended visits so you two can have a good amount of time together, but youre not living there...Also, if you have to do long distance for a little bit, then take it as a chance to grow closer...with modern technology now a days you can e-mail, instant message, text message, write real letters, phone calls, web cams, etc. etc. and be in constant communication with each other...who knows, it might even make you two grow closer in the long run...so my best advice I can give you is that you BOTH need to be happy and come to a compromise so that one day you two can settle in a spot where you both truly want to live. For now, you need to come to a happy compromise, support his decision, be there for him, and at the same time, make yourself happy...you have some decisions to make...best of luck!!How should I feel? what should I do? personal Q (long) any advice appreciated.?
If what you say is true that he was rejected by over 140 Japanese companies, you would ask him to take the job opportunity in Shanghai. And maybe what he said is true, that you should move back to America. It's only 1 year, and if it's long distance relationship, you can also see whether he's faitfull to you or not.
THE BEST advice i have for you is to DO you, altering your world to suite the needs of another will never and can never fufill YOU. AND YOU are your own top priority. end of story. NO one wants someone they can just control, dont be his toy, that he can just make do whatever he wants. Be happy, live your life. Were born alone and will die alone, dont waste one more second living for someone else
considering the fact that he was rejected by 140 companies....i think u should let him go to china and begin his career.
you can go with him if you don't have any serious issue with china.
otherwise u can keep seeing each other frequently.
I think you should read the book,';He's just not that into you';.
You have got to develop your own life and ESPECIALLY your own back bone! Try taking a course in ';Womens Studies';. You are free! Girl wake up! If you do not currently drink coffee start today, shake those cobwebs out of your head and develop your voice!!!!!! Mother loves you!
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Personal problem that is i wanted some advice on how do i go about with my life is in grave sorrow having marr
i am an indian n tuff to get off a marriage still draggging my life the only thing now which keeps me happy is my baby,,pls suggest how do i let go my bitter feelings towards others??my life is wasted anyways....i hate to see my baby in others hands-inlaws...
pls suggest me how do i tell my one year old how bad they have been to me....Personal problem that is i wanted some advice on how do i go about with my life is in grave sorrow having marr
You don't.
A one year old is not capable of dealing with the bad you want to tell him/her.
If your in-laws are bad toward you and bad influences on the child then you need to be an adult enough to distance yourself from them and the child for the sake of you and the child.Personal problem that is i wanted some advice on how do i go about with my life is in grave sorrow having marr
About wasted life did you ever see ';the secret'; it said that if you focus on bad you go worse but if you focus on wht you want it rises up it also said that you use it all the time!but you never know!focus on wht r u going to do next (for the better not worse)
pls suggest me how do i tell my one year old how bad they have been to me....Personal problem that is i wanted some advice on how do i go about with my life is in grave sorrow having marr
You don't.
A one year old is not capable of dealing with the bad you want to tell him/her.
If your in-laws are bad toward you and bad influences on the child then you need to be an adult enough to distance yourself from them and the child for the sake of you and the child.Personal problem that is i wanted some advice on how do i go about with my life is in grave sorrow having marr
About wasted life did you ever see ';the secret'; it said that if you focus on bad you go worse but if you focus on wht you want it rises up it also said that you use it all the time!but you never know!focus on wht r u going to do next (for the better not worse)
Personal grooming on a man - need girls advice?
I'm wondering if girls like a guy shaved, trimmed, or natural down there?
Does it feel different during intercourse?Personal grooming on a man - need girls advice?
if u want me 2 blow ur mind wid myhead u beta be shaved!!! and tome it also feels better durin intercourse!!Personal grooming on a man - need girls advice?
i remove all of mine, but i personally like trimmed to like less than an inch on a man. bushy is a bit gross, and shaved looks kind of odd because the rest of you is hairy
i dont think pubic hair should be really noticeable, and so i think it should look fitting with the rest of your body hair.
so trimmed to the same length as your other body hair for a guy, all removed for a girl.
just my opinion
and yeah it looks and feels diffrent in the heat of the moment
atleast trimmed , if not shaved.
just keep in mind , us girls dont want a mouth full of hair right. we do you guys a favour by keeping our areas clean the least you could do was the same , right ?
well all girls are different but i would say trimmed.
bc bald is kinda weird for guys but hairy is ikky.
so keep it trimmed.
Trimmed or shaved if you want her to enjoy BJ';s.
Does it feel different during intercourse?Personal grooming on a man - need girls advice?
if u want me 2 blow ur mind wid myhead u beta be shaved!!! and tome it also feels better durin intercourse!!Personal grooming on a man - need girls advice?
i remove all of mine, but i personally like trimmed to like less than an inch on a man. bushy is a bit gross, and shaved looks kind of odd because the rest of you is hairy
i dont think pubic hair should be really noticeable, and so i think it should look fitting with the rest of your body hair.
so trimmed to the same length as your other body hair for a guy, all removed for a girl.
just my opinion
and yeah it looks and feels diffrent in the heat of the moment
atleast trimmed , if not shaved.
just keep in mind , us girls dont want a mouth full of hair right. we do you guys a favour by keeping our areas clean the least you could do was the same , right ?
well all girls are different but i would say trimmed.
bc bald is kinda weird for guys but hairy is ikky.
so keep it trimmed.
Trimmed or shaved if you want her to enjoy BJ';s.
Ok so i have a really personal question i need advice?
Im 16 years old. 3 months ago i had a threesome with two boys i know from my neighborhood. They are brothers. Well i have been feeling really sick lately and so i took 3 home pregnancy tests yesterday and they are all positive. I had my period before i had sex with them and i know one of them is the father. But i dont know what to do. I have kind of a bad rep at school, and my parents are really strict. Going to them is not an option. I told the boys about it and they both say because they know my rep they dont believe me, and it could be anyones, which i know isnt true because i had my period 2 weeks before i slept with them. I think i want to keep the baby, but the worst part is that i had sex with these two other guys over the course of the past 2 months and its rumored that one of them has herpes,and i have been having some weird symptoms down there so im afraid for my baby, but i do not have money or a car so i can go to the dr. What do u think i should do?Ok so i have a really personal question i need advice?
First take your little hot @ss self to the Women's care center so they can check you out. They will help you off for next to nothing or no charge at all. They will help you with support with the baby and getting your own life together. If not the women's care center, talk to your school social worker, she/he should have some resources. Next, you need to take a good look at what you little hot self is doing and realize you need to make better choice. Life is not about much sex you can have a with how many people you can get it from. It is time to grow up hunni and do what is best for that baby of yours. Your baby does not want a hoochi as a mama! Good luck!Ok so i have a really personal question i need advice?
get on medicaid, go to the dr get tested. keep your legs closed that was a very trampy thing to do not trying to be rude and get a paternity test when the baby is born if your keeping it.
and why the hell didnt you make them use a condom, one of them was rumored to have an std...very irresponsible and completely stupid.
I'm not sure how strict your parents are if you've been sleeping around the neighborhood...but anyway...it doesn't sound liek you're ready for the baby. Contact a church and ask about adoption. A lot of times, the adoption agencies can pay for your medical care %26amp; transportation.
if you have no money for the doctor, how will you provide for this baby ?? your parents?? if so, they diserve to be told. they will find out sooner or later anyways. just don't mention the 3some ;)
What I would do first is go to your parents especially if you are going to keep the baby. They will find out sooner or later anyways because of your growing belly. To me it sounds like you are not ready for a baby, and with no money and obviously no support from the ';father, or fathers'; then I would say to put it up for adoption, you wouldn't believe the great families out there that are really really wanting a baby and can't and wait forever to have one but never get one because God didn't bless them with the reproductive systems that they need to produce, but he did bless you and if you are not ready for this baby then give it to someone that is. If you do decide to keep the baby then you will have to tell your parents, but what are you going to do about school and an income for that baby? All I'm saying is to make the right decision for you and that baby.
First of all, close your legs for the rest of your teenage-hood. There is a reason why your parents are so strict on you. They care about you (they want the best for you), unlike guys who sleep with 16 year old girls and get them pregnant, when they had a whole future ahead of them.
Go to the doctor, ask him what you should do and stop hanging around guys who don't care about you and hang around people who do. Maybe tell your parents, because your parents know what's best for you. That's what you should do.
You need to talk to someone to get some answers and help. By 3 months you need to see a dr for your health and your baby's health. If you feel like you cannot tell your parents then you could try talking to a school counselor or a representative from Planned Parenthood. Maybe there is someone else in your family or another adult that you could go to? Planned Parenthood charges for services on a sliding scale so that people who need help can afford it. Check around in the phonebook and online as well for other resources in your area.
Remember that especially if you want to keep this baby you will not be able to hide it from your family forever. If you are keeping the child then they will have to know about it at some point. If you feel that you are responsible enough to keep the baby then you should be responsible enough to get medical attention for yourself and the baby. Having herpes during pregnancy can be a very serious issue. If you think this may be the case a dr can give you more information and may be able to help you not to transmit the disease to your child during birth.
Wishing you the best of luck.
First take your little hot @ss self to the Women's care center so they can check you out. They will help you off for next to nothing or no charge at all. They will help you with support with the baby and getting your own life together. If not the women's care center, talk to your school social worker, she/he should have some resources. Next, you need to take a good look at what you little hot self is doing and realize you need to make better choice. Life is not about much sex you can have a with how many people you can get it from. It is time to grow up hunni and do what is best for that baby of yours. Your baby does not want a hoochi as a mama! Good luck!Ok so i have a really personal question i need advice?
get on medicaid, go to the dr get tested. keep your legs closed that was a very trampy thing to do not trying to be rude and get a paternity test when the baby is born if your keeping it.
and why the hell didnt you make them use a condom, one of them was rumored to have an std...very irresponsible and completely stupid.
I'm not sure how strict your parents are if you've been sleeping around the neighborhood...but anyway...it doesn't sound liek you're ready for the baby. Contact a church and ask about adoption. A lot of times, the adoption agencies can pay for your medical care %26amp; transportation.
if you have no money for the doctor, how will you provide for this baby ?? your parents?? if so, they diserve to be told. they will find out sooner or later anyways. just don't mention the 3some ;)
What I would do first is go to your parents especially if you are going to keep the baby. They will find out sooner or later anyways because of your growing belly. To me it sounds like you are not ready for a baby, and with no money and obviously no support from the ';father, or fathers'; then I would say to put it up for adoption, you wouldn't believe the great families out there that are really really wanting a baby and can't and wait forever to have one but never get one because God didn't bless them with the reproductive systems that they need to produce, but he did bless you and if you are not ready for this baby then give it to someone that is. If you do decide to keep the baby then you will have to tell your parents, but what are you going to do about school and an income for that baby? All I'm saying is to make the right decision for you and that baby.
First of all, close your legs for the rest of your teenage-hood. There is a reason why your parents are so strict on you. They care about you (they want the best for you), unlike guys who sleep with 16 year old girls and get them pregnant, when they had a whole future ahead of them.
Go to the doctor, ask him what you should do and stop hanging around guys who don't care about you and hang around people who do. Maybe tell your parents, because your parents know what's best for you. That's what you should do.
You need to talk to someone to get some answers and help. By 3 months you need to see a dr for your health and your baby's health. If you feel like you cannot tell your parents then you could try talking to a school counselor or a representative from Planned Parenthood. Maybe there is someone else in your family or another adult that you could go to? Planned Parenthood charges for services on a sliding scale so that people who need help can afford it. Check around in the phonebook and online as well for other resources in your area.
Remember that especially if you want to keep this baby you will not be able to hide it from your family forever. If you are keeping the child then they will have to know about it at some point. If you feel that you are responsible enough to keep the baby then you should be responsible enough to get medical attention for yourself and the baby. Having herpes during pregnancy can be a very serious issue. If you think this may be the case a dr can give you more information and may be able to help you not to transmit the disease to your child during birth.
Wishing you the best of luck.
I realize this is kind of personal but really need advice?
I get waxed down below regularly...a brazilian...and whenever I do I always get these tiny white bumps (not tons, maybe five or so) and they are really like tiny zits (I know gross right!). My waxer says it is from the wax getting into my hair follicles and that I should use crushed up baby asperin afterwards which I do but this tends to just lessen them, not get rid of them completely.
Any advice???
And it isn't an std for those that are going to respond with that, I have been tested many times and so has my bf...we've been together forever...I realize this is kind of personal but really need advice?
I get Brazilians as well, and i just use my loofah in the shower to gently exfloiate the area. It also helps stop ingrown hairs.I realize this is kind of personal but really need advice?
Go to a doctor and they will eighther give you a special cream if its not to serious but if it is really serious they will have to do surgery to get whatever is below out of your body and go back to being the way you are.
I hope I gave you a reasonable explanation!
=)
That's just one of the pitfalls of defying nature, unfortunately. Get used to it or let your hair grow.
Does your waxer apply baby powder first? Have her try that. They do that for my eyebrows.
I would suggest some exfoliation with a body scrub to clear off the dead skin.
Its probably normal, when i shave i get them to. but i dont wax.
you're weird, why would you get waxed down there? just shave. ah, ignorance.
pop em
u know how ppl get razor burn well its the equivalint of thatrevlon
Any advice???
And it isn't an std for those that are going to respond with that, I have been tested many times and so has my bf...we've been together forever...I realize this is kind of personal but really need advice?
I get Brazilians as well, and i just use my loofah in the shower to gently exfloiate the area. It also helps stop ingrown hairs.I realize this is kind of personal but really need advice?
Go to a doctor and they will eighther give you a special cream if its not to serious but if it is really serious they will have to do surgery to get whatever is below out of your body and go back to being the way you are.
I hope I gave you a reasonable explanation!
=)
That's just one of the pitfalls of defying nature, unfortunately. Get used to it or let your hair grow.
Does your waxer apply baby powder first? Have her try that. They do that for my eyebrows.
I would suggest some exfoliation with a body scrub to clear off the dead skin.
Its probably normal, when i shave i get them to. but i dont wax.
you're weird, why would you get waxed down there? just shave. ah, ignorance.
pop em
u know how ppl get razor burn well its the equivalint of that
Did my psychiatrist give me a personal or professional opinion/advice? Is this unethical?
I recently saw my psychiatrist who has been treating both my husband and me for years (at separate visits). He told me at this visit that he ';shouldn't tell [me] this, but I will anyway'; and proceeded to very angrily tell me that my husband is delusional, psychotic, and needs meds. He had also at other points in the visit put words in my mouth and barely gave me room to speak. He had never acted this way before, but appeared to be very agitated and I know that he is the only psychiatrist working at a clinic and also travels to many other clinics in the area. He (at many other visits) had chit-chatted with me (at his own instigation) and had from the beginning tried to convince me that my relationship with my husband is ';hopeless'; and is a ';matter of convenience';. There had been many times over the course of my treatment with this psychiatrist that his professional opinion had affected my view of my relationship with my husband. This advice has caused my marital separation.Did my psychiatrist give me a personal or professional opinion/advice? Is this unethical?
I am not an expert in professional ethics for pyschiatrists but I saw several therapists (to deal with depression/perfectionism) during my late 20's. My general rule of thumb is that if you're this uncomfortable with what he's done/said, it's probably unethical. The best therapists I have had have given me tools (not advice) so that I could heal my emotional wounds. They have worked closely with me, guiding me toward healthier choices emotionally, reinforcing skills that I used successfully and changing skills that I couldn't make work. It would not hurt to see another therapist to get different perspective on your marriage.
The most effective therapist (and my last one twenty years ago) told me that he needed about 18 months to teach me new habits. If after 18 months, I didn't feel better -- he would then recommend other therapists who could help me. And I'll never forget his saying that he firmly believed that the purpose of therapy was to enable the client to live (with her new emotional skills) happily on her own without weekly visits. 15 months later, I ';completed'; my therapy and haven't needed it since.Did my psychiatrist give me a personal or professional opinion/advice? Is this unethical?
You could sue him. He violated the HIPPA law, telling confidential information of one patient and disclosing it to another. You should either A) Go to the state, or if he's in a clinic, go and talk to his supervisor. Tell them if they do not take action immediately, you will go to the state, and besides suing him, you will sue them as well. You should also go to the state and try and get his license revoked.
Now on the matter of separation with your husband, try and get back together. Tell him what happened, and try and think about it. Did his information affect the relationship. If It did, just talk it out with him. If you really do love him, and he really loves you, you can get over it.
If you have to question your psychiatrist than you already know the answer! This is extremely un professional and you need to change doctors ASAP! I wouldn't hesitate to report him as well because this is uncalled for and shouldn't be brushed off. I would also explain to your husband (maybe not in detail) how your therapist acted.
So advice caused your separation.
Not anything real?
Change Doctors immediately
You need to leave the care of this person immediately and never go back. Good luck to you.
Yeah definatly change psychiatrist
A psychiatrist is supposed to listen to you and you should be able to trust them.
What you say to a psychiatrist is confedential so he shouldn't have told you anything from your (ex) husbands visits.
I heard a problem like this before i don't know if its the same situation but a psychiatrist was dealing with people like you and he started to see that they were starting to sort out their problems so he ';twisted'; what the woman thought about her husband and lead to a divorce.
You should also tell someone about this.
Go back to the clinic and ask someone there could you speak to the boss that you want to file a complaint about this person. To stop it happening to anyone else. Hope it helped
I am not an expert in professional ethics for pyschiatrists but I saw several therapists (to deal with depression/perfectionism) during my late 20's. My general rule of thumb is that if you're this uncomfortable with what he's done/said, it's probably unethical. The best therapists I have had have given me tools (not advice) so that I could heal my emotional wounds. They have worked closely with me, guiding me toward healthier choices emotionally, reinforcing skills that I used successfully and changing skills that I couldn't make work. It would not hurt to see another therapist to get different perspective on your marriage.
The most effective therapist (and my last one twenty years ago) told me that he needed about 18 months to teach me new habits. If after 18 months, I didn't feel better -- he would then recommend other therapists who could help me. And I'll never forget his saying that he firmly believed that the purpose of therapy was to enable the client to live (with her new emotional skills) happily on her own without weekly visits. 15 months later, I ';completed'; my therapy and haven't needed it since.Did my psychiatrist give me a personal or professional opinion/advice? Is this unethical?
You could sue him. He violated the HIPPA law, telling confidential information of one patient and disclosing it to another. You should either A) Go to the state, or if he's in a clinic, go and talk to his supervisor. Tell them if they do not take action immediately, you will go to the state, and besides suing him, you will sue them as well. You should also go to the state and try and get his license revoked.
Now on the matter of separation with your husband, try and get back together. Tell him what happened, and try and think about it. Did his information affect the relationship. If It did, just talk it out with him. If you really do love him, and he really loves you, you can get over it.
If you have to question your psychiatrist than you already know the answer! This is extremely un professional and you need to change doctors ASAP! I wouldn't hesitate to report him as well because this is uncalled for and shouldn't be brushed off. I would also explain to your husband (maybe not in detail) how your therapist acted.
So advice caused your separation.
Not anything real?
Change Doctors immediately
You need to leave the care of this person immediately and never go back. Good luck to you.
Yeah definatly change psychiatrist
A psychiatrist is supposed to listen to you and you should be able to trust them.
What you say to a psychiatrist is confedential so he shouldn't have told you anything from your (ex) husbands visits.
I heard a problem like this before i don't know if its the same situation but a psychiatrist was dealing with people like you and he started to see that they were starting to sort out their problems so he ';twisted'; what the woman thought about her husband and lead to a divorce.
You should also tell someone about this.
Go back to the clinic and ask someone there could you speak to the boss that you want to file a complaint about this person. To stop it happening to anyone else. Hope it helped
Personal, but I need advice...?
I'm 14 weeks pregnant tomorrow and I'm terrified to orgasm during intercourse with my husband. I have heard that it causes contractions and I don't want to complicate this pregnancy or hurt the baby. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage so I'm really walking on egg shells with this one. I know it might sound ridiculous but I really need reassurance that I wouldn't be compromising the pregnancy by having an orgasm during intercourse. Thanks in advance.
P.S.
Please, only mature answers only.Personal, but I need advice...?
I understand your fear; have you spoken to your doctor about this situation? Usually I would say there's no risk involved, since doctors usually encourage you to maintain your regular sexual activities (as long as you don't do anything too 'rough' or 'risky'); however, given the fact that you have had a miscarriage in the past, I would really advise you to talk this over with your doctor, even though it may be a little embarrassing, it's better to be safe than sorry, and it would be healthier for your relationship with your husband if you guys knew the risks and benefits beforehand. He could get frustrated with the situation if you don't want to make love all the way with him, but if it's a medical situation he will probably be more understanding than if he didn't know otherwise.
Also, the doctor could tell you there's nothing to worry about and you can begin enjoying your sex life again. In any case, good luck, and congratulations!Personal, but I need advice...?
Oh honey you can't start up your contractions until your body is ready for them. Basically during the end of your pregnancy you could start your contractions but as early as 14 weeks, all it will do is put your baby to sleep with the rocking motion. There is nothing to worry about. As long as you aren't feeling any discomfort during intercourse, everything will be fine.
having sex, and having an orgasm will not hurt your baby or complicate the pregnancy. If you have a miscarriage or have had one it would have happened no matter what you did, short some really drastic and terrifying things you can do to your body. Your little sweety is good and snug in there. Once you get past your first 3 months you'll feel better, after 6 months ready to go haha. But sex does not hurt the baby. That is an old wives tale. And orgasms do not hurt the baby either.
As long as your doctor says you are healthy enough to have sex, having orgasms are perfectly fine. I sympathize on your situation though, I am 23 weeks pregnant and walking on egg shells too after an earlier miscarriage.
It can cause contractions, my doctor said orgasms are good when your baby is running past it's due date. I wouldn't worry about it right now and if you still need reassurance, talk to your obgyn, thats what they are there for.
Congratulations on your pregnancy :)
At what stage did you miscarry? I wasn't able to reach orgasm with either of my pregnancies even though the urge was there. My doctor said that most of my blood was being used elsewhere - turns out I was anemic during both.
Believe it or not I did discuss that particular concern - not being able to reach orgasm with my doctor; so, have you talked with him/her about orgasm and your fear about jeopardizing your pregnancy?
Ah don't worry about it over much. I was worried about the same thing, I'm almost 14 weeks along as well and I've had 2 miscarriages. You should be safe enough now that you are in your second trimester. It will contract your uterus but it shouldn't throw you into preterm labor. Have fun, have sex, orgasm, just if you seem to have complications afterwards call your doctor and talk to them about it. Good luck!
Orgasms are perfectly okay. Yes, they can sometimes cause contractions but usually during the last few weeks of the pregnancy. Since you have miscarried, you should consult your dr. for a more reassurant answer, but honestly, they are okay.
No, you would not. The ony time your baby is in danger is if your on your back for long periods of time or your hubby is putting alot of air into your vagina when your having sex. But orgasms are okay and not only that but they feel great.
It does make the uterus contract but isn't harmful to the baby. And if you are worried, stick to one orgasm a day. The contraction feeling only lasts a minute or less...it should be fine!
You'll be ok, I felt kind of the same way but its ok you won't go into labor or anything, actually orgasms are even b etter now that your pregnant! They kind of feel more intense but really good! Enjoy!
P.S.
Please, only mature answers only.Personal, but I need advice...?
I understand your fear; have you spoken to your doctor about this situation? Usually I would say there's no risk involved, since doctors usually encourage you to maintain your regular sexual activities (as long as you don't do anything too 'rough' or 'risky'); however, given the fact that you have had a miscarriage in the past, I would really advise you to talk this over with your doctor, even though it may be a little embarrassing, it's better to be safe than sorry, and it would be healthier for your relationship with your husband if you guys knew the risks and benefits beforehand. He could get frustrated with the situation if you don't want to make love all the way with him, but if it's a medical situation he will probably be more understanding than if he didn't know otherwise.
Also, the doctor could tell you there's nothing to worry about and you can begin enjoying your sex life again. In any case, good luck, and congratulations!Personal, but I need advice...?
Oh honey you can't start up your contractions until your body is ready for them. Basically during the end of your pregnancy you could start your contractions but as early as 14 weeks, all it will do is put your baby to sleep with the rocking motion. There is nothing to worry about. As long as you aren't feeling any discomfort during intercourse, everything will be fine.
having sex, and having an orgasm will not hurt your baby or complicate the pregnancy. If you have a miscarriage or have had one it would have happened no matter what you did, short some really drastic and terrifying things you can do to your body. Your little sweety is good and snug in there. Once you get past your first 3 months you'll feel better, after 6 months ready to go haha. But sex does not hurt the baby. That is an old wives tale. And orgasms do not hurt the baby either.
As long as your doctor says you are healthy enough to have sex, having orgasms are perfectly fine. I sympathize on your situation though, I am 23 weeks pregnant and walking on egg shells too after an earlier miscarriage.
It can cause contractions, my doctor said orgasms are good when your baby is running past it's due date. I wouldn't worry about it right now and if you still need reassurance, talk to your obgyn, thats what they are there for.
Congratulations on your pregnancy :)
At what stage did you miscarry? I wasn't able to reach orgasm with either of my pregnancies even though the urge was there. My doctor said that most of my blood was being used elsewhere - turns out I was anemic during both.
Believe it or not I did discuss that particular concern - not being able to reach orgasm with my doctor; so, have you talked with him/her about orgasm and your fear about jeopardizing your pregnancy?
Ah don't worry about it over much. I was worried about the same thing, I'm almost 14 weeks along as well and I've had 2 miscarriages. You should be safe enough now that you are in your second trimester. It will contract your uterus but it shouldn't throw you into preterm labor. Have fun, have sex, orgasm, just if you seem to have complications afterwards call your doctor and talk to them about it. Good luck!
Orgasms are perfectly okay. Yes, they can sometimes cause contractions but usually during the last few weeks of the pregnancy. Since you have miscarried, you should consult your dr. for a more reassurant answer, but honestly, they are okay.
No, you would not. The ony time your baby is in danger is if your on your back for long periods of time or your hubby is putting alot of air into your vagina when your having sex. But orgasms are okay and not only that but they feel great.
It does make the uterus contract but isn't harmful to the baby. And if you are worried, stick to one orgasm a day. The contraction feeling only lasts a minute or less...it should be fine!
You'll be ok, I felt kind of the same way but its ok you won't go into labor or anything, actually orgasms are even b etter now that your pregnant! They kind of feel more intense but really good! Enjoy!
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