Personal Confession (Seeking advice or at least some kind of explanation)?

I am in a long distance relationship, we love each other and do have intimate life. I will be visiting him this winter. I am afraid to have sex with him and am not sure if that's what I want.





Details: we have been apart for only 6 months, and I do love him. I am very young (21)





~Please don't assign me to a doctor. I just need advice.Personal Confession (Seeking advice or at least some kind of explanation)?
When I first met my husband 6yrs ago he was living in the US and I was in Oz...


I remember the first time we actually met face to face, I had excatly the same concerns as you...


I can still remember being nervous, and it may surprise you that hes probably having the same thoughts as you...what I sugguest is you play it by ear...meaning that you take things slow and see how things progress...While you have been apart you have obviously been talking alot, and thats good because open communication is an excellent way to start a relationship...


If you get to the point where you think you dont want to have sex when your face to face, then explain it to him, I'm sure he will understand that your not ready and will wait for you to be...


Just remember to use protection if you decide to go ahead and do it...but dont be pressured into it...do what you feel your comfortable with...but make sure he knows your not rejecting him and that your just not ready...


I hope some of this made sense...Personal Confession (Seeking advice or at least some kind of explanation)?
just wait and see how it goes when the two of you meet up. if you don't feel ready for sex, or if you're not sure, then don't do it. wait until you're ready and it feels right.


in the mean time, just enjoy each other's company! :)
if you are having doubts about doing it then maybe you are not yet ready for it..besides you're too young..i suggest you should not do it..it may be something that you will regret in the future..
If you both love each other, both will be very much understanding. So if you wish not to have sex, you can tell him, he will understand. But on the other hand, if you really loves him, then why you should be afraid? What is the reason you are gonna visit him? Is it not for having more closeness? Will not that end up in love making? Ya, so thats for sure, you love him so deeply and wanted to have love making with him.... Dont be afraid, you both love each other so much...Go ahead and have a safe sex.
just talk to him about it...he should understand...sex isnt everything in a relationship
The anxiety you're experiancing could be do to the distance between the two of you. I say don't worry about it. If you're really in love all it may take is to be in his presence and if you still feel uneasy when you get there don't do it! Don't do anything you don't want to. I think you should express to him the part about being afraid. If he really knows and loves you he'll know exactly the way to get you back in your comfort zone, If he doesn't then maybe it's a sign that something is wrong.
If you doubt it don't rush it.Don't do what you will not be comfortable with. If he loves you, he will understand.And he will be there when you are ready.
Your in a long distance relationship and you have been intimate??? Now you have been apart of 6 months, you love him and your scared to intimate??? Sorry i like to get thing straight before i answer something...


If you have been intimate before, was it OK then and now because of the apart time maybe your questioning yourself if he is truly what you want...If you don't want to have sex and it makes you feel uncomfortable, tell him...You may need time to get to know him again, don't have sex just because he wants to, it makes the act undesirable. It OK that you scared, its your brain telling you to think about this a little harder, so don't do anything you don't want to...
If you are not sure do not do it. But explain that to him, what are your feelings about him and your relationship.
just be honest with him and tell him how u feel. if u aren't sure then u must wait. u will know when its time for that. if he doesn't understand then he isn't the guy for u.
The only advice i could give you is:If you don't want to have sex while your there,tell him so before you go and see if it matters to him,this way maybe you don't have to waste your time going if this is all he wants.But if your relationship has already gone that far,why are now afraid to have sex with him now?Have you been unfaithful?Do you think he's been unfaithful?If you have ,get tested before you go see him.
You had awesome sex but are afraid to have it again? I am very confused. Could you elaborate?
i think it is normal to be afriad sometimes, but if you continue to feel this way, i would not give in, you'll just feel like **** after (maybe). If he really cares, he will understand. take care
hey girl! some tips ok.... if your not really sure on what you really want, dont do anything that careless. I mean, DONT HAVE SEX W/ HIM YET! you know why? because having sex w/ your boyfriend is not a justification that he loves you that much! and if you just want to please him by that, STOP! ok? im sure you guys can find something better to do together that is worth your time than having sex.
you love him but does he love you? if he does then it will probally work. if not he is probally ******* around on you. you did say that it has be 6 months since the last visit. it hard to say .love is a very strange and worped thing. i wish you the best
Well dont rush into things if you want to be with him and dont really want to be sexually active with him the dont feel pressured to do so.
the answer is comfort, do what is comfortable, and though in years to come you may look back on this as being a silly thing to be worried about, you need to think about now.





let things happen, remember you are in control of yourself.
No one can tell you when it's time to have sex. That's a decision you're gonna have to make for yourself. Just get as much information on protecting yourself from pregnancy and diseases as you can. Talk about it with your man. You should be able to openly discuss sex and pregnancy and diseases with him before you take the plunge.You don't mention why you are afraid. Are there some moral misgivings or are just afraid of the physical aspect of it? Ask (and answer) these questions of yourself.
Never do anything that you are not ready for.


You are in control of YOUR own body.


No one can make that decision for you.





The biggest thing that you can learn at your age is to be yourself and don't do anything you don't want to do. Don't do things to just please some one else.





And love doesn't mean sex. And sex doesn't mean love.





I think you are bright and only you can make this decision.





All I can do is remind you that you hold your own destiny in your own hands. No one else can take that fro you