Personal issues...I NEED ADVICE!?

okay so like, i never feel like i fit in, its like i NEED to hang out with the popular people to be satisfied. I am a smart girl, and i know that popularity is not everything. But im such and idiot. any advice on how to be myself and not try to be many other things (punk, preppy, emo, sporty, and so on..) P.S. i have tried them all...im such A POSER!!!!Personal issues...I NEED ADVICE!?
!shut yourself off from everyone for sometime and bring yourself back to you, then remain that way, when you go back out!!!Personal issues...I NEED ADVICE!?
Ah, just go with your OWN flow. ^^ Find something you really like and that you can get into! Like a certain actor, movie, book series, musician. Then seek out people who might like the same thing just by saying, ';Hi, what's you name?'; and eventually bringing up that certain thing you find interest in. ^^


It's worked for me more than once, since I move a lot. Obsessions can sometimes get you far...
just be yourself. i know its o cliche but as you said you've tried everthing else and it didn't work. it makes no sense to be someone you're not , it's just a waste of time and effort. be who you are and you will soon find yourself fitting in with people who you have things in common with, people who you like hanging out with and who like hanging out with you.
Everyone feels like they don't fit in at some point. The popular people are not satisfied, because people look up to them like they have it all. They are not truly happy. Calling yourself an idiot and a poser is not going to help. You are just trying to find yourself, and there is nothing wrong with trying different things. Do whatever makes you happy, no matter what others think.
Those labels are basically who you hang around with and how you dress with you do it. They are nothing more than just labels though. People are all the same. You need to just dress the way you feel and act like yourself. Don't think you have to be something certain. I would hate to be well-known and liked for something I';m not. I would rather be hated for who I am. Good luck and hope this helps!
I feel the same way! u always have to fit in wear the rite clothes hang out wit the cool kids u can never be urself these days. u just have to hang out wit them and show ur true feelings to one friend that u no u can trust thats about it u can be urself still but the problem wit the world today is dat u always have to fit in but be urself around other ppl
take a deep breath. now stop putting yourself down. if you stop telling yourself things like that you're ';such a poser'; then you won't feel like you ';NEED'; to hang out with these people. remember that you're one individual person. you're not different by the style you choose to apply yourself to. if you're emo one day you're not a different person the next day because you're preppy. you'll always be the same person. also, you are not an idiot. you're you. you're intelligent but like every other human being you make mistakes and choose to do ';idiotic'; things. when you feel comfortable with yourself it will be easier for you to love yourself and see yourself as one individual. also, remember that people don't ';fit in';. Your legs fit in to your jeans, but you are a person! You were meant to live in this wonderful planet, and therefore you belong anywhere you choose. But if ';fitting in'; is the ultimate thing to you then you need to find yourself first. then you will find a group of people that are mature enough to accept themselves and you not by a certain style, but as individual fun-loving and smart human beings.
its not worth it .. get good friends you'll be happier
i know exactly how you feel and i will sum up your solution. your true, real, forever friends, will not like you because of your label or satus, but rather who you really are. all the other ones will not matter and they will betray you if you lose a high status. the real ones are always there, and you will feel a lot better if you can just relax and be yourself! good luck!
Sweetheart, that is what being a teenager is for, to try out ways of being you and see what fits. As long as you are not doing it in ways that hurt other people there is no harm. This is actually about your spiritual journey in life. The three questions are, Who am I? Why am I here? and What happens after I die? You are starting to work on the first one.





Advice: ask your self what you like best about each of these personae, see how each trait fits into the ';real you'; and let those parts become part of the you that you are growing into.
be your slef you dont have to change who you are to be cool stay yourslef. peace out...
First you need to grow up.


Then you need to find a personality.


Just be yourself and believe in yourself.


Try just relaxing a little and enjoy the youth you have.
you sound just like this one boy @ work...who will do ANYTHING to fit in with ANYONE who will accept him





honey, you just need to look into the mirror (of your soul and heart) and love yourself for who you are...pick out your good qualities and LOVE them, PLEASE


know that you have good substance, and replicating others, conforming to the mold and standards that others have set wont get you anywhere BUT the wrong crowd sweet love....you are a sweet person-because you realize that you dont want to go on like this. trust me, I KNOW how it feels to want to fit in, to feel normal...but it will never happen! we are ALL different! and those who have TONS of friends are just lying to eachother/competeing with eachother.


i knew a long time ago i was different from everyone else, and i decided to stay that way. Its hard, dont get me wrong, but worth it. stick ur head up high, and be proud of who you are, your good features, your heart, do what makes YOU feel good, wear what makes YOU feel sexy, and flaunt your goodies, stop caring so much of what others think of you!!!


good luck sweetie