Relationships and personal lifes advice?

Hey was looking for advice on how to not let your personal lifes affect your relationships.Well my bfs dad has just left the family home his mum and bro and sis are obviously very upset and kevin my bf is the eldest he says he needs to keep strong for every 1 but its taking it out of him he has no energy no passion nemore for life i am also going through a rough patch with anxiety depression issues and havent been well i try to be there for him and he trys to be there for me but its like we are both concentrating on our own problems and have forgot about our relationship i dont no what to do nemore we love each other but how can we stop this affecting us?Relationships and personal lifes advice?
Leave him or Stay with him is the question! The pendulam swings more towards leaving him, Ha!Relationships and personal lifes advice?
Just focus on your issues for now - Once it settles down you relationship will get back to normal.
Hey! Sh*t happens. Forget about it.
I know exactly how you feel. When my husband and I were dating we went through a lot together we both had family problems and we took it out on each other. But in the end it's those hard times that made us stronger and more in love with each other, there's a comfort in knowing that some one will be there for you no matter what happens.





My philosophy is that if I'm there to take care of you and you are there to take care of me then in the end we are both being taken care of and everything will be alright. This will be a lot easier if you go through it together, then if you decide it's too much and you go through it alone.





don't worry in the end it will only make you stronger. You know the saying ';what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger';
well id say you two should get out and do something whether you guys have to wait till everyone is asleep but you guys should take time to do something for yourselfs. and also try helping out with things over there at his place and ask for the same. but it sounds like you guys just need some time away from stress.
i think you should both just keep trying to help eachother as much as possible, but if ur lives get too hectic and that makes things worse, you should spend some time apart from eachother to sort your problems with someone else's help.
Wow. What an insightful question.





You need to be really, really honest with yourselves! That will fix everything.





No, don't get mad at me... I'm not one of those ';gurus'; who says stuff and leaves you to ';figure it out';.





This applies to each of you:





Make a list of all the things you are spending time and energy on. Don't judge, don't think, just list!





I mean everything here! Watch TV, surf the net, go to counciling, doctors, and so on. Go to work, go to school, hang out with friends, eat, sleep, you name it, it must be on the list.





Now, leave it alone, take a break, and come back to it in a few hours or a day or two.





At this point, very, very seriously evaluate each thing on the list. Does it help you?





Sometimes we do stuff cause we just don't know what else to do, right? It doesn't really help, in fact it really hurts, but we do it anyway. Counciling is a big time culprit. Paying someone to tell you what a piece of crap you are is worthless. (Not that you're a piece of crap. That's my point. You're a human being, and you need someone to help you focus on the good things in you, not the mistakes you have made.)





Anyway, you decide for yourself on each thing. Does it help? Do you need to spend your time/energy/money on this?





Now make sacrifices. At this point I think it has to be ';all or nothing';. Councilors say that's bad thinking, which is one of the ways they hurt people.





The truth is, in the mental shape you are in, you don't have the ability to say ';oh, I'll just watch less TV'; You don't have the energy to discipline yourself. So instead of ';less TV'; say ';No TV';. At the very most, say ';only this one show. That;s it. It's the only show I really love. No other TV';.





Same with Internet. ';No more Internet except answers, and I'm only reading Raven's answers, cause she's always right...'; KIDDING! Honestly though, limit online time. Even if that means no more Yahoo.





When you cut your life down to the essentials, you will be happier and have more time for each other.





Good luck.